How did you aquire your guestbook?

skimecrn

My mom says that it is usually a gift you get at your shower. I thought it was my responsibility to buy it. Should I wait and see if I get at at my shower? How many of you married knotties got yours at your shower?

danieliza1127

I've never heard that before.  I took care of my own guest book.  I think that's really something that should go with the style and decor of your wedding and I'm not sure how any guests at the shower would be able to pick that out.

bbyckes

I probablly won't be having a shower, but I don't want a typical guestbook anyway.  I'm purchasing my book through Shutterfly, so I'll be paying for it.

betrothed123

My mom also told me this, so I waited.  I'm glad I did because someone gave it to me at the shower.  I also received a serving set, toasting set, and cake topper at my shower.  In some circles it's the norm to receive these as shower gifts, in others it is not.

RachNRich

I acquired it at Michael's when I paid for it at the checkout counter. I'm not having any showers---so, no luck for me getting one as a gift. Plus, I want it to be something I like and will want to look at for years to come---not something someone else likes.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]My mom also told me this, so I waited.  I'm glad I did because someone gave it to me at the shower.  I also received a serving set, toasting set, and cake topper at my shower.  In some circles it's the norm to receive these as shower gifts, in others it is not.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

But what if you didn't like it or it didn't "go" with your wedding?  Do you still use it?

tlv204

I bought it.  I didn't receive any wedding stuff at showers actually, no flutes, servers, etc.  But we also didn't register for any, so maybe that's why.

ButtonsPepper

I got mine from etsy. I never heard of a guestbook at a shower.

anna.oskar

DH's family has that rule about cake servers.  We received a hideous, plastic handled, ribboned and bedazzled mess for his mother that obligated us to use it because it would have hurt her feelings otherwise.  Unfortunately, DH snapped the server in half while cutting the groom's cake at the rehearsal dinner.  We had to use the pretty, silver, engraved server that I love for the reception.

Get what you like.

skimecrn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How did you aquire your guestbook? : But what if you didn't like it or it didn't "go" with your wedding?  Do you still use it?
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]
 That's what I'm worried about... I think I'll just buy it and hope I dont' get another.

mandysmear

I didn't do a traditional guestbook.  BUt, I got the stuff to do mine myself.

temerityjane

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How did you aquire your guestbook? : But what if you didn't like it or it didn't "go" with your wedding?  Do you still use it?
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

<div>My cousin told me it's the norm in our circle to get the toasting flutes, cake set, etc at a shower so I'm not going to bother with buying them. As for them "going," - I imagine that's a concern for some people. However, for me, if I don't get them at the shower, I probably won't buy them anyway and just use whatever the venue has in the way of a great big knife. Those details are really so tiny I can't imagine them needing to "go."</div><div>
</div><div>Now, a caketopper, that might be different. Some are just cheesey.</div>

MeaghanandMichael

I always see guests books and toasting flutes on registries. So yeah, most people get them at their shower.

We did a coffee table book of Martha's Vineyard as our guest book so I just bought it at a normal store when I found one I liked.

skimecrn

I think I'll ask my married cousins if they got it that way. We didn't register for them so hopefully people will get the hint that way. Thanks girls.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How did you aquire your guestbook? : My cousin told me it's the norm in our circle to get the toasting flutes, cake set, etc at a shower so I'm not going to bother with buying them. As for them "going," - I imagine that's a concern for some people. However, for me, if I don't get them at the shower, I probably won't buy them anyway and just use whatever the venue has in the way of a great big knife. Those details are really so tiny I can't imagine them needing to "go." Now, a caketopper, that might be different. Some are just cheesey.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]
This exactly.  I didn't care about it "going" at all.  If I didn't get this stuff at the shower I would have just found something cheap to use because for those things saving money was all I cared about.

EDIT: as for the cake topper, my little sister bought it for me, and she knows me very well, so I knew it would be awesaome, and it was.  I'm not sure I would have liked just anything for a cake topper.

danieliza1127

Well if you register for the one you want, then sure that makes sense.  But otherwise, I think it's weird.

TJ - good point.  We used the venue's flutes and cake servers. 

shellydiane820

I think my mom picked one up at Hallmark in between the rehearsal and dinner.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I probablly won't be having a shower, but I don't want a typical guestbook anyway.  I'm purchasing my book through Shutterfly, so I'll be paying for it.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

Ditto. I'm planning on having the guests write on separate pages and then making a scrapbook, so I wouldn't prefer a traditional guestbook anyway. But I also don't expect or want a shower.

pooh8402

I've never heard the "gift at a shower" thing. don't people often sign the guestbook AT the shower(s)?

and we're sewing ours together. actually, FMIL has already sewd (sewed? sewn?) it. we're doing a signature quilt instead of a book, picture mat, plate, what have you. she picked out a pattern, we picked out the fabric, I helped her sew a few sections together, and she has done the rest of the sections. we'll piece the whole thing together this summer as a project.

rought draft below. note: not pieced together yet, and the layout isn't finalized. we'll have just the squares in a basket at the wedding, and laundry indelible markers for people to sign with.

K2snowbunny

We are using our engagement photos to make a guest book. 

beatlesgirl25

I'm like rach and bought mine at Michael's. I wasn't planning anything special with it (photos, etc.), so it was really an afterthought. I didn't even care much about the design on the front matching, because it was going to be open the whole time the guests saw it anyway. Bought a nice gold pen from Staples to match and it was all set.

allibrooke

I did not want a traditional guestbook either.  I ended up negotiating with the photographer to make a coffee table style book with our engagement photos.  The photos are spaced throughout the pages with open spots--kind of like a yearbook--for the guests to actually write out messages.  I figure I have a better shot of that becoming a coffee table book and staying out instead of just being thrown into a box that stays in the attic.  Just another idea:)