Thank you cards

mjimmerson

We had our wedding a two weeks ago, and were shocked when several close friends invited did not bring a gift, money or even a card. I know the etiquette allows a year for guests to send a wedding gift, but I just don't think these guests are planning on sending or giving anything. Do I send thank yous to those you didn't bring anything or send a gift?

HockeyFan4

gifts are not mandatory...and you should not be shocked or hold any ill will towards those guests who did not give you a gift.

Thank you cards are for actual gifts (monetary or otherwise), so you do not send them thank you notes.  The reception is the thank you for attending the ceremony.

Avion22

You do not need to send notes.  I dont think I would interpret it this way, but they can be interpretted as hinting that you are expecting a gift.  

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Some may view a thank you note for attending as being gift grabby.  People may surprise you and send gifts.

However, you've thanked them for the presence by hosting them at the reception.

banana468

You don't need to send TY notes just for attending.

And you may want to chill out about the gift thing.  They're not required and some people may give them later than you expect.   We received one wedding gift over 18 mo after the big day.

Loopyseven

We received a wedding gift 18 months afterwards too.  No need to send a TY if you didn't receive anything from them.  The reception is their thank you for attending, so another thank you for that is superfluous.

cwaggoner07

We moved a month after our wedding, and we received some 'house warming' gifts from off our registry. I honestly think the few people that did this just kind of forgot/were late getting to a gift for our wedding, becasue none of those people had given us 'wedding' gifts.
We still wrote them thank you cards regardless of what 'occasion' the gift was for.

freebread03

I attended one of my best friend's weddings last month; I had been working long hours (65+ hours/week) the month leading up to the wedding, and I just didn't get a chance to buy a gift off their registry, even though I meant to.  I even left the card laying at home.

The next week I did send them a gift and a card, but they probably didn't get it until 2 weeks afterwards.  I'd be seriously offended if she was posting on TK because she hadn't received a gift so soon after the wedding (not to mention gifts are never required).

Sharpschruter22

Here is another view. Did they get you a shower gift? In some regions it is understood that you receive either a shower gift or a wedding gift, not both. I'm from Illinois and moved to Missouri and was a little shocked to discover that no one down here gives gifts for both parties. Just another thought.