Who to invite?

mlperkins12

My parents have some new friends who have become friends of ours as well.  They have two adult sons (22 and 25), both live at home.  We would like to invite them and their younger son (+1) to our wedding.  Both the couple and the younger son have come to parties, helped FI and I with a house project, etc.  We have never met the older son, nor have my parents who have visited the family’s home a few times.  Do we need to invite the older son to the wedding? 

Maggie0829

I would say no because even though he lives with his parents he is an adult and would then be getting his own invitation.

It isn't like the sons are 10 and 13 so inviting one and not the other is a bit rude.

Kate61487

excludng one member of a family can hurt feelings, but in this instance I think it's fine.  You're not related to these people; so there's no expectation of an invitation.  Since you have literally never met the one son I think you're in the clear.

midgetthemighty

You don't have to but only you and/or your parents know this family well enough to know if they'd feel slighted by not inviting one of their grown adult children.

ETA - I only say that so you can either decide to invite him to avoid this feeling or be prepared for some possible hurt feelings. They shouldn't be hurt considering he's an adult and you've never met him but you never know.

mlperkins12

Thanks ladies, I appreciate the advice.