bridal shower and day of gift?

babycakes2312 · June 2012

Did I read somewhere that it was bad form to register somehwere, have a bridal shower and expect people to bring gifts to the wedding? My bridal shower would only be about ten guests, so everyone else would invited to the wedding (hopefully) would just bring a gift day of, yes? i certainly wouldnt expect two from the people who attended the shower. Or, was it that people dont buy shower gifts off the registry? I'm confused, please help.

brilibby4 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Did I read somewhere that it was bad form to register somehwere, have a bridal shower and expect people to bring gifts to the wedding? My bridal shower would only be about ten guests, so everyone else would invited to the wedding (hopefully) would just bring a gift day of, yes? i certainly wouldnt expect two from the people who attended the shower. Or, was it that people dont buy shower gifts off the registry? I'm confused, please help.
Posted by babycakes2312[/QUOTE]

You are over thinking this. Don't "expect" anything. If guests want to bring you gifts, they will. If they want to bring you money, they will. If they want to show up empty handed, they will. In my area most people bring gifts (typically from the registry) to the shower and cash to the wedding. Some people prefer to bring another gift to the wedding though. This really isn't anything for you to worry about.

SparrowSong · June 2012

I usually give a small gift at the shower ($20-30), and a larger gift ($75-100) for the wedding (shipped/delivered to bride's home, not brought to the reception).

But I agree with the others. Don't "expect" anything and let people give what they will as they desire. Not everyone does it the same way.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · June 2012

Showers are for gifts. I buy a physical gift for showers. I then give cash at a wedding. Although related, I see the shower and the wedding as separate events. Some people only give gifts for one or the other. That's fine. Don't worry about what other people are going to do, just register.

babycakes2312 · June 2012

Sorry, "expect" was a poor choice of wording. I dont "expect" anything from anyone. Thank you all for your insight!

hoffse · June 2012

It's rather regional. In the south people often get physical gifts for both events, unless a lot of guests are out of town and either don't want to ship a physical gift beforehand or don't want to travel with it. I never give cash, but I do give gifts for both events.