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Please feel free to give me a sharp kick in the pants

I need some people to knock some sense into me, I'm being a total brat.

In the past four months, H and I have

*lost my last grandparent, a good family friend, my cat and had a childhood friend murdered
* Changed jobs (both of us)
* moved halfway across the country
* gotten married

After the wedding we really just needed to relax and have our honeymoon, but we were supposed to go to Belize and it was hit by Hurricane Richard (being a tricky diick) the day we were supposed to go. We did wind up going to Virgin Gorda, but where we stayed was surrounded by wild chickens, who crowed at 2am EVERYDAY. It was not the lay in the hammock and drink rum punch honeymoon we wanted.

I know that it was amazing that we got to do anything for our honeymoon, and I fel like a brat whenever I talk about it. But I am so sad that I will forever associate bad memories with my honeymoon. We are going to go to Belize in June, but that's really a vacation, not a make up honeymoon.

And I just found out that our photographer didn't get any photos of us coming back up the aisle as married folk, so I'm angry about that too.


So, do I need to snap out of it? Should I suck it up? What would you do?

/end whine/
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Re: Please feel free to give me a sharp kick in the pants

  • I'm sorry for of your recent losses.  Thats a lot in a short time.  They say death comes in 3's though, which always seems to be the case for me.  For you it seems to be 4's.

    I say snap out of it.  We also moved cross country right after our move, and didn't get to to do a honeymoon.  Now H is deployed, and we won't be able to go on one until at least he gets home.  So I would take your situation over mine, if that makes you feel any better. 

    Have you checked to see if any friends and family grabbed a pic coming back up the aisle?  Some of their pics are my favorites of ours. 
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  • Suck it up girl.  It's over and done with and the most important thing is that you are married and you are (hopefully) happy.  All that other stuff is just stuff.  Sure, it's okay to feel sad tha tyou didn't get the "experience" you wanted, but that's the danger in building all of this stuff up in your head.  It never is what you think it will be.  We spent the two weeks H had in the US after our wedding, running around and visiting family. Then he had to go back to Italy while I was waiting for our paperwork to come in.  I spent the first two months of married life on a different continent.  Our first vacation- ever- as a couple happened just two weeks ago when we went to London. 

    Life could be a lot worse Het. :)
  • Thanks guys, and my rump isn't even that sore!

    It'll be great story in 5 years, how we got hurricaned out. Right?  RIGHT? Maybe I'm grumpy b\c it's cold here.

    And yes, I am thankful that H is around, I know he could be deployed or worse. He's in TX right now collecting gifts. Yay!
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  • Cold in Texas? :D  Come for a visit!! lol

    I'm feeling mellow today so I wasn't in the mood for butt kicking, but really.  You got to go somewhere with your H and vacation, even if it wasn't what you were planning on. STOP WHINING!! ;)
  • I'm actually in Annapolis, MD. That would be the halfway across the country move.


    And I have my big girl pants on. I'm ok. NO MORE WHINING.
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  • Just think, 10 years from now the story of your HM that got ruined by a hurricane and resulted in you being surrounded by wild chickens will be a much more entertaining story than drinking and relaxing in the sun.
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  • Ah right.  I wasn't sure if you went one way or the other. :)

    (You'll realize that I didn't touch the other stuff because really, no matter how you cut it, that stuff does suck)

    I bet you're still meeting people and getting to know the area and making friends, right?
  • I think it's okay to whine a bit. In the last 6 months, we also moved across country, changed jobs, got engaged and had our furbaby die. Lots of major life changes in a very short period of time throws anyone off balance.
  • It's ok to whine a little and get it out of your system.  On the ruined HM front - a friend of mine got evacuated from her hotel in Cancun (I think) for a hurricane.  They spent their HM in a gymnasium on cots with about 1500 other people.  Talk about romance!!  :)

    Seriously, though, things will get better - hang in there.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_please-feel-give-sharp-kick-pants?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a5023c8f-84e1-49bb-83ed-2ac421d93de4Post:99f4e0a4-4314-42f9-856c-7cc6f839fe78">Re: Please feel free to give me a sharp kick in the pants</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just think, 10 years from now the story of your HM that got ruined by a hurricane and resulted in you being surrounded by wild chickens will be a much more entertaining story than drinking and relaxing in the sun.
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>And goats! We came back one day and there was a goat on the porch. You are right, that will be funny.</div><div>
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    </div><div>Snippy- yes we are working on meeting people. It's really hard, I forgot how difficult it can be. But we have tickets to the navy game next weekend and to the Army/Navy game. </div>
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