H and I got married in June. SIL (H's sister) got married in August. In the chaos of our wedding, she sent us a bridal shower gift but we didn't get around to sending her one. H & I decided we'd give her something extra at her wedding.
The morning of SIL's wedding, I learn from FIL that she actually got married a year ago at the court house in secret. I was very shocked- my H, her brother, had no idea either. In the chaos of THAT weekend, we also never got around to getting her the shower gift.
At this point, I don't want to bother getting it. I feel hurt by what she did. However, I think maybe we should still get a gift because a) no one knows about the courthouse marriage, so H & I will look like the rude ones and b) H has told SIL a few times (including after her wedding/PPD) that we still plan on getting her a shower gift. Also, I don't want to deny her a gift out of spite, and I'm too close to the situation to tell if I'm doing that or not.
WWED? Get her a gift, or don't get one and hope no one asks why?