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miss.morgans

So our wedding was March 20th and we were expecting a lot of people.  There were a lot that came, but we did notice some people who rsvp'd yes but then did not come.  Since the wedding, niether of us have heard from these people, they havn't contacted us to let us know why they weren't there.  Is there a nice way to bring about why they didn't come? There are some of them that we were really hurt they didn't come and thought for sure we'd have an email or something saying why they missed it.  Any ideas on how to find out why they didn't come?

PsyDet 2155

It's done and over with.  I know it's frustrating that people said they would come and you paid for their food and drink, but there's no tactful way to bring it up now that the day has passed.

shellydiane820

If you're really upset they didn't show up, you can call or write and just say "we missed you".

charlsie26

email them and tell them they will be invoiced for their meal! 

It's just sucks that it happened, but it's over and done with.  Move on.  Then hopefully someday, when your paths meet again, see if the topic comes up. 

luckyme502

First, you could just call them or email them and start talking to them and see if it comes up.  Second, and I mean this is the least offensive way, nobody cares about your wedding as much as you.  Maybe something came up, maybe they overslept, maybe they woke up in the morning and didn't feel good.  Whatever the reason, I wouldn't feel hurt over it. 

thesuninherhead

Personally, I would question how close I am to these people that they both didn't attend and didn't contact me to let me know. I think you should follow the advice of the above, and let them know you missed them on the day.

janedoe1113a

We had an entire table not show up and none of them would have been traveling together.  8 people in total. 

Yea, it bugged us, but we're over it now.  It's just a small part of the entire day.

danieliza1127

Well if you really are concerned about whether something happened, you could e-mail or call and just say something like "hey we really missed you at the wedding!  I hope everything is okay!"  Other than sounding concerned for their well-being, I don't think there's really a good way to say it.