Is this tacky?

bridie2013

My friend who is a BM in a wedding told me at the BS this past July the BTB mother had a sign up sheet for people to sign to volunteer to make cookies and how many for the wedding. I said what???? OMG I think that is the tackiest thing I have ever heard!!! The overall opinion was that it was embarrassing for the BMs. 

The BTB mother also insisted being on the BS invitation as her and the BMs were throwing the BS and the BTB mother was one of 2 people to call to RSVP, now mind you; all the BMs are responsible, career women who were very capable of handling the BS on their own. 

I have talked to my DM about this and she would NEVER interveine like this and thinks the cookie sign up sheet is beyond tacky. What do you all of you think? 

Thank you.

ootmother2

If you're all friends, I can't see the big deal.

Your use of the term "tacky" is a bit weird here

strlzfan11

Cookie tables at weddings are a Western PA tradition, so I would not be offended by it.  In my experience, though, people usually call the bride's family and ask what to bake.

bridie2013

LOL...yeah that may be weird to use tacky;-)

Oh yes we love our cookie tables in WPA but there were many people at the shower who were not very close to the bride and saw the sign up sheet. The BTB mother has enough family and friends to bake enough cookies so there was no need to have it there. I am planning my wedding and my friend vented to me about because she was a little embarrassed when she heard some of the other ladies making comments. She told me I better NOT do that at my BS and I told her not to worry....my DM would never do that;-)

strlzfan11

It strikes me odd that there were people invited to and attended the shower for someone with whom they weren't close.  In any case it's not worth getting worked up about, but you put that thought aside as a what not to do if it truly bothered you.

bridie2013

Yes, I agree...I'm not sure why people would go to an event like that if they are not close but some BTB will invite the mother's of BM i.e. and I guess they attend because they would feel bad if they don't. I am inviting only my very closest family and friends because I don't want it to be like a gift grab either by inviting semi close people and friends of friends. It is good to read other bride's opinions about BS and wedding etiquette though:-) 

banana468

It probably wasn't the best way to handle the request but since this is part of the tradition of the western PA / Youngstown, OH area it may be something that's more understood, no?

I'd never heard fo this until I met SILwho is from Youngstown and there were a TON of cookies at their reception.

PrimRoseMama

I have never heard of this tradition, but it seems like something that is common in that region. I don't think it's tacky. If you want to bake the cookies then go for it. If not, buy some and display them on decorative plates. Done.

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-this-tacky-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a54fac94-ca15-48c5-ad04-51fed225f134Post:e7673636-d605-455f-bde4-09ea915be465">Re: Is this tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]LOL...yeah that may be weird to use tacky;-) Oh yes we love our cookie tables in WPA but <strong>there were many people at the shower who were not very close to the bride</strong> and saw the sign up sheet. The BTB mother has enough family and friends to bake enough cookies so there was no need to have it there. I am planning my wedding and my friend vented to me about because she was a little embarrassed when she heard some of the other ladies making comments. She told me I better NOT do that at my BS and I told her not to worry....my DM would never do that;-)
Posted by bridie2013[/QUOTE]

<div>Now that part strikes me as tacky.  </div>