Friend only registering at places that give cash back

OwningAHome1981

Gifts are never mandatory you're right but if you get an invite and you want to come but can't (prior obligations or whatever), you SHOULD send a gift. In your situation if you're not close to the girl then I thnik that's different.

freebread03

OwningAHome, please explain your logic and rationale behind your "should send a gift" statement because I really don't see how a normal person could ever think that they SHOULD send a gift if they receive an invitation and cant go. If that were proper etiquette, I think people would send out a lot more invitations to things since, as you seem to think, an invite demands a gift regardless of attendance. Your advice is way off, and I'm surprised that someone who's been around for a little while like you hasn't figured this one out yet.

LauraChristin

For those who said she will only get a store credit - 

We returned a few gifts we had received from our registry in October 2011 at Bed Bath and Beyond. We were given the option of having store credit or they would write us a corporate check for the same value. Which is more or less like getting the cash. (We went with a store credit.)

OwningAHome1981

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-only-registering-at-places-that-give-cash-back?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a63e3078-0df1-4d13-a502-0f41df88ea59Post:fef2b0fd-acb1-45ea-b403-ba445e8120ee">Re:Friend only registering at places that give cash back</a>:
[QUOTE]OwningAHome, please explain your logic and rationale behind your "should send a gift" statement because I really don't see how a normal person could ever think that they SHOULD send a gift if they receive an invitation and cant go. If that were proper etiquette, I think people would send out a lot more invitations to things since, as you seem to think, an invite demands a gift regardless of attendance. Your advice is way off, and I'm surprised that someone who's been around for a little while like you hasn't figured this one out yet.
Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]

I think it depends on the situation and your relationship to the bride-to-be. For example, I am very close with a girl from CA who I met in college (I live in NY), I was invited to her wedding and went, but couldn't afford to fly across country for her shower and take days off work, This girl was my roommate in college for 3 years and were are extremely close. I sent her a gift in the mail. I think in that particular situation a gift was warranted and should have been sent and was.

freebread03

In Response to Re:Friend only registering at places that give cash back:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Friend only registering at places that give cash back:OwningAHome, please explain your logic and rationale behind your "should send a gift" statement because I really don't see how a normal person could ever think that they SHOULD send a gift if they receive an invitation and cant go. If that were proper etiquette, I think people would send out a lot more invitations to things since, as you seem to think, an invite demands a gift regardless of attendance. Your advice is way off, and I'm surprised that someone who's been around for a little while like you hasn't figured this one out yet.Posted by freebread03I think it depends on the situation and your relationship to the bridetobe. For example, I am very close with a girl from CA who I met in college I live in NY, I was invited to her wedding and went, but couldn't afford to fly across country for her shower and take days off work, This girl was my roommate in college for 3 years and were are extremely close. I sent her a gift in the mail. I think in that particular situation a gift was warranted and should have been sent and was. Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

So what you're saying is that you chose to send a gift because she is a close friend of yours. Way to totally backtrack and act like you didn't say that "if you receive an invite, you SHOULD send a gift." You're lovely.

Ajuliana

Not that they have a huge selection of items to register for, but Nordstrom's absolutely gives cash back even without a receipt.   

OwningAHome1981

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-only-registering-at-places-that-give-cash-back?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a63e3078-0df1-4d13-a502-0f41df88ea59Post:201bbb65-7599-4e46-9818-abf32c053fb0">Re:Friend only registering at places that give cash back</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Friend only registering at places that give cash back: So what you're saying is that you chose to send a gift because she is a close friend of yours. Way to totally backtrack and act like you didn't say that "if you receive an invite, you SHOULD send a gift." You're lovely.
Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]

I said if you want to come but can't you should send a gift. Not necessarily if you receive an invite. If you're not really friends with the person it would be fine to not send one. I also said it depends on the situation.
And yes, I am lovely. Unforutnately, you are not. :::Shrug:::: Can't win 'em all.

freebread03

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Friend only registering at places that give cash back : I said if you want to come but can't you should send a gift. Not necessarily if you receive an invite. If you're not really friends with the person it would be fine to not send one. I also said it depends on the situation. And yes, I am lovely. Unforutnately, you are not. :::Shrug:::: Can't win 'em all.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, I disagree with you, but based on the other advice I've seen you give, this doesn't surprise me.  PS, you may want to make spell check a more regular thing.</div>