So H's little sister visited with her girlfriend this weekend and over the course of an evening (of drinking) mentioned that she and her girlfriend want to have kids eventually. This is no surprise, we've known she wants kids even though she's gay, what took me back was that they want to use Hs sperm...
Now, obviously her girlfriend would be the one bearing the child- not my SIL- but I'm still on the fence about the idea. I know their reasoning kind of makes sense. They want SIL to have some biological tie to the baby, since in WI they cant legally be married. And the thinking is if SIL and her girlfriend ever split, our family would still have some claim to see the baby, be in its life etc. And then the kid would look like H/SIL/their family etc etc etc
But in my heart, I feel like H- and everything about him, splooge included- are mine. I don't know if I could detach from the baby enough, even though its not mine. Or if H and I decide not to have any more kids (despite him reeally wanting a son) and then his sis ends up with a boy, if he could detach.
I really love my SIL and want her to be happy. And I know it's really hard being gay in a very straight, midwest society but idk... I'm torn. It's not something we're gonne decide tomorrow or anything I'm just looking for feedback.
p.s. my first thought was "omg redneck! the kid would have a daddy-uncle!" lol