Need some quick advice

chapel2012

What do you do when someone who was invited to the wedding but can't come to the wedding hands you a card in person?

Do you open it in front of them or open it later? 

AdeleDazeem

I'd open it later.  But that's me.  I don't think there's any right or wrong answer here.

chapel2012

Thanks Joy.

I am just concerned it could be awkward since it will be in a work setting and am not sure if it would be appropriate. 

itzMS

Why wouldn't this person mail the card?

Anyways, I would just say something like "Oh, thank you so much for thinking of us!" And place it in my bag/portfolio/whatever.

If the person presses you to open it, I would say something along the lines of "FI & I will open & read the card together later, thank you again for thinking of us!"

samantha24p

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_need-some-quick-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a6e03a55-4697-43b4-bdfa-f0fee8437090Post:c5947366-7c5b-4254-99a1-fdfc465b32e1">Re: Need some quick advice</a>:
[QUOTE]Why wouldn't this person mail the card? Anyways, I would just say something like "Oh, thank you so much for thinking of us!" And place it in my bag/portfolio/whatever. If the person presses you to open it, I would say something along the lines of "FI & I will open & read the card together later, thank you again for thinking of us!"
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]



That's really good advice. If pressed I'd probably open it, but I like your advice better.

chapel2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_need-some-quick-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a6e03a55-4697-43b4-bdfa-f0fee8437090Post:c5947366-7c5b-4254-99a1-fdfc465b32e1">Re: Need some quick advice</a>:
[QUOTE]Why wouldn't this person mail the card? Anyways, I would just say something like "Oh, thank you so much for thinking of us!" And place it in my bag/portfolio/whatever. If the person presses you to open it, I would say something along the lines of "FI & I will open & read the card together later, thank you again for thinking of us!"
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

<div>This is great! Thanks so much I think I will use this. </div>

lbarr088

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_need-some-quick-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a6e03a55-4697-43b4-bdfa-f0fee8437090Post:9114e0a2-7547-4f9f-aeee-5ddae1934fe4">Re: Need some quick advice</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm getting married in December.  Just family and close personal friends.   I haven't spoken to my sister in 10 months.  We're not mad with each other, she chooses not to stay in contact with our family except when she wants or needs something.  She has not called on holidays or birthday's despite living right around the corner from me.  Needless to say she is not a close sister.  Do I invite her to my wedding, knowing in my heart I do not want her or her husband to attend?
Posted by artson[/QUOTE]

<div>You are just going to have to weigh the situation.  If you don't invite her will there be family drama and will it be worth it?  If she isn't known for causing trouble, etc. I would just invite her.  She does fall under the category of "family."  Now, if there had been a huge falling out and whatnot I'd probably say you didn't have to.  </div>

achiduck

Say thank you and open it later with your FI.

KellyBrian2013

In Response to Re:Need some quick advice:[QUOTE]I think one of us is drunk. nbsp;I hope it's me, because that would make Monday much more entertaining. Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Someone posted a random question about whether or not to invite her estranged sister and BIL to her wedding... that's what the response was to. She has since deleted and started her own post/thread. But you're right... drunk on Monday morning would make for an interesting day!

stantokm

OP, this is unrelated to your question because the PPs already did a great job answering, but I'm just curious--is there a story behind the "marrying my arch nemesis" thing in your siggy??