My best friend called me yesterday and let me know that she would not want me to be stading up there with her at her wedding next month as one of her bridesmaids because:
1. I will be 7.5 months pregnant at her wedding (I was pregnant before she even found out she was going to have to plan her wedding in approx. 3 mth. and she asked me to be a bridesmaid when she got engaged.
2. won't look good in a dress her other bridesmaids are picking to make them look good which their budget is $50 for.
3. Afraid that I will feint while she is at the alter (I feinted twice during my pregancy because I became hypoglycemic after conception, but that was because I didn't know I am hypoglycemic).
She also mentioned she still wanted me to buy a dress and be in the wedding colors so, I still look like I am part of the bridal party but, that I am more important than a bridesmaid to her and she wanted me to be her "right-hand man" and help her serve at the reception and help her get ready, etc.
I was crying while she was telling me this and off and on the past 24 hours. I sent her an e-mail this morning appalled how she could ask this of me and how she made me feel fat for the first time in my life ever, how lame her excuses are and how she essentially wants me doing maid of honor duties for her without the title or the honor of standing by her side. My final decision was that I didn't want to be there, if she didn't want me standing up there with her.
I hoped it wasn't too harsh, but I really don't like drama and especially not while I am six months pregnant.
she e-mailed me back this afternoon. said she was sorry and how I hurt her with my cutting e-mail and how our friendship is being damaged and how friendship is more important than being a bridesmaid anyways and how she still wants me there for the wedding, etc. etc.
My true dilemma is:she is suppose to be the Maid of Honor at my wedding.