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Who should I tip?

TraditionalprincessTraditionalprincess
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I'm renting a venue where the bartender and wait staff come with the rental costs. Should I still tip the bartender and each member of the wait staff?


It would just feel real awkward to me trying to hunt down each member of the staff at the end of the night.

Should I tip them? 
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    I think you should talk to the venue and ask how they handle tipping and whether or not it's included in your cost.

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  • dumdumfroggiedumdumfroggie
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    This cheat sheet is quite good for tipping:

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  • TraditionalprincessTraditionalprincess
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-should-i-tip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a887a401-da2d-452a-be0a-ec934d11ec4dPost:a9f6172b-a741-4747-a522-08f384348625">Re: Who should I tip?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think you should talk to the venue and ask how they handle tipping and whether or not it's included in your cost.
    Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

    <div>I didn't think about that, good idea.</div>
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-should-i-tip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a887a401-da2d-452a-be0a-ec934d11ec4dPost:fc769358-da2d-4a72-b82a-e95695f6c754">Re: Who should I tip?</a>:
    [QUOTE]This cheat sheet is quite good for tipping: <a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-budget/articles/wedding-vendor-tipping-cheat-sheet.aspx">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-budget/articles/wedding-vendor-tipping-cheat-sheet.aspx</a>
    Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]

    I think that the knot's tipping guide is on the cheapo side

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  • alintottalintott member
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    my venue had gratuity included for wait staff and bartenders, but the outside vendors gratuitys are up to us to handle seperately, CHECK with you venue coordinator they should have already informed you.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    Is there a service charge added to the bill?

    If not, then yes, you still tip.  I asked the venue before hand how much staff there was and put tips in an envelopes for each of them.  The venue distributed them for us.






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  • chattychiqachattychiqa member
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    My venue has 18% of the total bill added to the contract.  If yours does the same, I'd not feel obligated.

    If someone goes above and beyond, wait staff, bartender, etc, or is just giving really really good service, I'd slip them a little something.
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