Is This Acceptable??

xorissabearxo

Hi ladies,

I have a situation for you.

Example: I have a family of 4 I'm inviting to my wedding.  My aunt and uncle, my cousin who's 16 and another cousin who is away at college.  I was wondering if it was acceptable to send an invitation to the family and then 3 response cards, one for my aunt and uncle, cousin and the other away at college and all to the same address, which would be my aunt and uncle's house.  Should my cousins recieve an invitation too or is it alright to just send them response cards for them and their plus ones?

Kate61487

anyone over 18 gets their own invitation with RSVP.  Anyone under 18 can be included on their parents' invitation and RSVP.

GardenMaven

I have a family of 4 that have two "kids" in college, but one of them lives at home.  I am sending each kid their own invite, because they are adults.  So there will be two invites going to one house, but I respect that the young man living there is old enough to have his own invite.

misssunshine17

I used to be so irritated when people sent things to my parents house while I was in college and tacked me on to their invite. Please send adults their own. Just ask for the college students' address. 

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]No. Send the parents and teen one invite with one RSVP for all three. Send the college student their own invite and RSVP to their current address.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Do this.  

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emeejeeayen

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[QUOTE]I have a family of 4 that have two "kids" in college, but one of them lives at home.  I am sending each kid their own invite, because they are adults.  So there will be two invites going to one house, but I respect that the young man living there is old enough to have his own invite.
Posted by GardenMaven[/QUOTE]

<div>To be fair, the times that I have lived at home as an adult, I was really annoyed when people would waste paper, money and time to send a separate invite when they could just send the one. Seriously about the paper thing. That isht adds up. </div><div>
</div><div>(If they live away from home, ditto PP.)</div>

GardenMaven

I get the wasting paper thing, however, he is 21 yrs old and has a long time gf, so they will be on one invite.  He also pays rent to his parents.  If he was 18 and never lived away from home (he moved BACK in with them last semester), then I'd be more likely to send one invite.  

arco13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is This Acceptable?? : To be fair, the times that I have lived at home as an adult, I was really annoyed when people would waste paper, money and time to send a separate invite when they could just send the one. Seriously about the paper thing. That isht adds up.  (If they live away from home, ditto PP.)
Posted by emeejeeayen[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Also, there's been lots of time where mail just didn't seem to make it to my college dorm/apartment, so I often times preferred things to go to my mom's. </div>

lauraanne9

My SIL lives with her 2 sons.  Both of those sons are adults, and one of them is married.  I sent 3 separate invitations and no one said a word about thinking it was weird.  And they would have, LOL.  Not in a bad way, but they would have commented.  I also got the response cards back from all 3 invitations.

lyndausvi

I sent 5 invitations to the same address.  It don't think it's weird at all.   They were all adults who also got a +1.  Was I suppose to write 10 names one envelope?

I had to order my invitations in increments of 25, so I had the extra invites anyway. ::shrugs::

achiduck

Send over-18's their own invitation. The only situation where I included an over-18 on their parent's invitation was for my family in Germany, and only because they told me not to waste money on postage since we already knew they were coming as they had booked their plane tickets before invitations even went out.

arendiva

Adults get a separate invite. However before you send it to the college ask the college student if he would prefer it be sent to the house. My college frequently lost mail, plus I could never be bothered to check my mail anyway since I so rarely got anything. I preferred my mail to be sent to my parents house.

Gidget2011

My dear friend is the mother of the groom for a June wedding.  The bride's family is knowingly over bearing and is assuming the grooms mother is hosting a bridal shower on top of the rehearsal dinner.  It came to a surprise because they were not planning to do so.  The grooms sister is also a  bridesmaid and is helping with a shower.  The grooms parents have scheduled the rehearsal dinner, all to be held in the bride's hometown 2 hours away.

Is it neccesary for the Groom's mom to also have a seperate shower for the bride? I can see this is stressing her out and feel bad.

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[QUOTE]My dear friend is the mother of the groom for a June wedding.  The bride's family is knowingly over bearing and is assuming the grooms mother is hosting a bridal shower on top of the rehearsal dinner.  It came to a surprise because they were not planning to do so.  The grooms sister is also a  bridesmaid and is helping with a shower.  The grooms parents have scheduled the rehearsal dinner, all to be held in the bride's hometown 2 hours away. Is it neccesary for the Groom's mom to also have a seperate shower for the bride? I can see this is stressing her out and feel bad.
Posted by Gidget2011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I think this was supposed to be its own post?

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vgarlin

I'm currently in college and haven't lived with my parents in 3 years, but I would be perfectly fine being tacked onto their invitation because my mom would tell me about and then I could let her know to include me on the RSVP. I think it is a waste of money, paper, etc. to send it to someone in college just because they are an adult.