I miss you...

Ghoti

I read this on another forum I'm on, and gagged....

The bride's wedding is in June

"I had sent our B list this morning, but still have not received a substantial amount of RSVP's from the A list. I had to count them all as a 'yes', in order to calculate how many B listers I could invite.

I along with my mum, have called, emailed, and Facebooked. I wrote in big capital letters a message on our website. NOTHING! I even sent a request letter by post to someone!

EIther than be really angry and upset, (which I AM), what should I do at this point? These people live OOT, I can't go and knock on their doors. I don't want to harass anyone, but CAN YA ANSWER THE DAMN INVITATION ALREADY??!! WHATS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?? They are almost a week late, which obviously means nothing to them, but is driving me to insanity. I need the numbers.

PLEASE HELP!"

And if that's not bad enough, this is one of the replies...

"I forgot which bride posted this, but I hope this helps- you could send this in an email or fb message.

I am writing to you regarding our upcoming ___(date) wedding. We have not yet received your RSVP. if we do not receive your reply by___ we will note in our records for the catering company and venue that you will NOT attend, and the seats that were reserved in your honor will no longer be available. Thank you for your cooperation and understanding."

Not a single person said WTH??!! It was like my world as I know it was turned upside down...

Stackeye210

I can't read the writing on the copy/paste, it's too light and small. 

FutureMrsFezz

Definitely can't read that.

kcscejal

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[QUOTE]I read this on another forum I'm on, and gagged.... The bride's wedding is in June  "I had sent our B list this morning, but still have not received a substantial amount of RSVP's from the A list. I had to count them all as a 'yes', in order to calculate how many B listers I could invite. I, along with my Mum, have called, emailed and Facebooked. I wrote in big capital letters a message on our wedding website. NOTHING! I even sent a request letter by post to someone! Either than be really angry and upset, (which I AM), what should I do at this point? These people live OOT, I can't go and knock on their doors. I don't want to harasse anyone, but CAN YA ANSWER THE DAMN INVITATION ALREADY??!! WHAT'S WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?? They are almost a week late, which obviously means nothing to them, but is driving me to insanity. I need the numbers. PLEASE HELP!" And if that's not bad enough, this is one of the replies... I forgot which bride on pw posted this but I hope this helps- you could send this in an email or fb message.   I am writing to you regarding our upcoming ___ (date) wedding. We have not iet recieved your rsvp.  if we do not receive your reply by ____ we will note in our records for the catering company and venue that you will NOT attend, and the seats that were reserved in your honor will no longer be available.  Thank you for your cooperation and understanding. Best, name Not a single person said WTH?!! It was like my world as I know it was flipped upside down...
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I read this on another forum I'm on, and gagged.... The bride's wedding is in June  "I had sent our B list this morning, but still have not received a substantial amount of RSVP's from the A list. I had to count them all as a 'yes', in order to calculate how many B listers I could invite. I, along with my Mum, have called, emailed and Facebooked. I wrote in big capital letters a message on our wedding website. NOTHING! I even sent a request letter by post to someone! Either than be really angry and upset, (which I AM), what should I do at this point? These people live OOT, I can't go and knock on their doors. I don't want to harasse anyone, but CAN YA ANSWER THE DAMN INVITATION ALREADY??!! WHAT'S WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?? They are almost a week late, which obviously means nothing to them, but is driving me to insanity. I need the numbers. PLEASE HELP!" And if that's not bad enough, this is one of the replies... I forgot which bride on pw posted this but I hope this helps- you could send this in an email or fb message.   I am writing to you regarding our upcoming ___ (date) wedding. We have not iet recieved your rsvp.  if we do not receive your reply by ____ we will note in our records for the catering company and venue that you will NOT attend, and the seats that were reserved in your honor will no longer be available.  Thank you for your cooperation and understanding. Best, name Not a single person said WTH?!! It was like my world as I know it was flipped upside down...
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I had to quote it to be able to read it.  </div><div>
</div><div>Club boards are known for puppies and rainbows.

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Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to I miss you... :
Posted by kcscejal[/QUOTE]
Thanks, I can't get it to show up bigger. I tried to bold and blacken it, give me a min I'll retype :)

kcscejal

I don't agree with B lists, but if you're going to do one, this is not the way to do it.  At all.

HockeyFan4

hahahaha thank you for my afternoon chuckle!

RobotLegs

Didn't you just GBCK like 2 minutes ago?

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Didn't you just GBCK like 2 minutes ago?
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]
I missed you too much Robot<div> xoxo</div>

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Didn't you just GBCK like 2 minutes ago?
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]

<div>That was a GBCE.</div>

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I miss you... : That was a GBCE.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Actually, it was a "ITABE, INTFMI"<div>(I'm taking a break E, I need to finish my invites)</div><div>Which I did, and they sent today, woohoo.</div><div>
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Ghoti

AW-

LisaChris2011

I am writing to you regarding our upcoming ___(date) wedding. We have not yet received your RSVP. if we do not receive your reply by___ we will note in our records for the catering company and venue that you will NOT attend, and the seats that were reserved in your honor will no longer be available. Thank you for your cooperation and understanding."

Isn't this what we suggest to tell unresponsive guests after much follow-up?  I mean, a little softened of course, but if bride has contacted guests every which way possible, what's wrong with this type of request/letter?

mica178

Yay on sending your invitations!

There's a reason some brides never venture off their club boards.  There's all sorts of mad validation that happens over there. 

RobotLegs

So... you felt the need to make a big announcement that you'd be gone for like a week? 

Ok, well I think everyone needs to be aware that I am GOING TO LUNCH.  I will not post for AT LEAST 30 minutes.  GBCK.

LisaChris2011

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[QUOTE]AW-
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

Good job on the invitations!  They look beautiful. 

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I miss you... : Actually, it was a "ITABE, INTFMI" (I'm taking a break E, I need to finish my invites) Which I did, and they sent today, woohoo.
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>Well I'm glad to see you came back, but you made a post to announce that you were going to be gone for a week?  Hmmmm....</div>

RobotLegs

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I miss you... : Well I'm glad to see you came back, but you made a post to announce that you were going to be gone for a week?  Hmmmm....
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Well, she knows we hang on her every word and mourn her absence every moment she's gone. 

redheadfsu

This is why I don't go to my club board. I would get yelled at.

But... if the bride has tried contacting them already she does need to send that type of message (Reply by X or you are a no). This is another perfect example of why A/B lists don't work.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I miss you... : Well I'm glad to see you came back, but you made a post to announce that you were going to be gone for a week?  Hmmmm....
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
 I thought it would take longer. <div>I never said I was normal :)</div><div>It was kinda tongue in cheek, everyone thought it was weird that I left and suddenly jumped back in, so I made a post that I was going to be MIA for a bit, and then it kinda took off the wrong direction. </div><div>
</div><div>Really I could just tell how much Robotlegs missed my presence and came back so she'd stop crying in her cheerios.</div>

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]This is why I don't go to my club board. I would get yelled at. But... if the bride has tried contacting them already she does need to send that type of message (Reply by X or you are a no). This is another perfect example of why A/B lists don't work.
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]
I've never heard that before. I think if I got that message 2 months before the wedding, I'd not go. It'd get it like, 2 weeks before, maybe, but 8 weeks? That's nuts. 

Ghoti

Thanks Lisa!

RobotLegs

Trying too hard, party of 1.

salt78

Aren't you the one whose screen name is pronounced like "FISH" or am I thinking of someone else entirely?

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I miss you... : I've never heard that before. I think if I got that message 2 months before the wedding, I'd not go. It'd get it like, 2 weeks before, maybe, but 8 weeks? That's nuts. 
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

Yeah that is why the A/B lists don't work. People know what you are doing, when you have to have an answer several months before. But at some point the guests do have to respond. Yes, this bride is doing it too early, but the guests are being rude too.

polichik

I'm sorry, I usually hold my tongue if posters rub me the wrong way, but I'm kind of annoyed here. I feel like your post last week was just an attention-grabbing thread of strangeness, and now you're back already. If you don't think it's healthy to be here and if the flames hurt you, then take an actual BREAK. If you just feel like people don't pay enough attention to you and your thread last week was to get people to like you, it's not the way to go about it. Just hang around, be yourself, and stop making dramatic exit posts. Enough.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

GBCK fail. Being gone for 5 days does not equal a GBCK. It barely elicits a "where have you been?" from most people.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I am writing to you regarding our upcoming ___(date) wedding. We have not yet received your RSVP. if we do not receive your reply by___ we will note in our records for the catering company and venue that you will NOT attend, and the seats that were reserved in your honor will no longer be available. Thank you for your cooperation and understanding." Isn't this what we suggest to tell unresponsive guests after much follow-up?  I mean, a little softened of course, but if bride has contacted guests every which way possible, what's wrong with this type of request/letter?
Posted by LisaChris2011[/QUOTE]

She's sending it WELL before the date when RSVPs are likely either due or need to be due, given that her wedding is 2 months away... so she should only be sending invitations now.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry, I usually hold my tongue if posters rub me the wrong way, but I'm kind of annoyed here. I feel like your post last week was just an attention-grabbing thread of strangeness, and now you're back already. If you don't think it's healthy to be here and if the flames hurt you, then take an actual BREAK. If you just feel like people don't pay enough attention to you and your thread last week was to get people to like you, it's not the way to go about it. Just hang around, be yourself, and stop making dramatic exit posts. Enough.
Posted by polichik[/QUOTE]
I don't think it's unhealthy to be here and the flames didn't hurt me :) 

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I miss you... : I don't think it's unhealthy to be here and the flames didn't hurt me :) 
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>You're just contradicting yourself.  Didn't we prove to you already that we have good memories around here?  You said in this post about how you were hurt by the flames.  Seriously, NBD if you were, but you aren't going to gain any respect by completely backpeddling.  </div><div>
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