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DD's for rides home

        Any weddings that I have been to, have always been at a specific hall/restaurant/venue that has always offered a shuttle service.  We are having a vintage barn wedding, and all of our out of town guests have family from here, who have made arrangements to let them stay, the weekend of our wedding.  So, with that said, we are not blocking off any hotel rooms that may/may not offer a shuttling service, nor are we doing it at any specific hotel/venue that may do a shuttle service either.

        We are currently looking into an option; whether we hire someone from a limo company or taxi place, or even a family member who is not of drinking age, or willing to be the DD the night of our reception so that guests can have a few drinks if they so choose.  Is this a necessity that I offer a DD service to my guests, or am I worrying to much about an issue that as adults, my guests should be smart about, choosing whether or not to partake in drinking at the reception?  I've seen on Pinterest boards and other magazines, picture frames or a board up with numbers to taxi services, so that if needed they could call. I'm not to sure how I feel about that.  Just thought I'd ask, while we're still hashing out some of these smaller details.
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    [QUOTE]        Any weddings that I have been to, have always been at a specific hall/restaurant/venue that has always offered a shuttle service.  We are having a vintage barn wedding, and all of our out of town guests have family from here, who have made arrangements to let them stay, the weekend of our wedding.  So, with that said, we are not blocking off any hotel rooms that may/may not offer a shuttling service, nor are we doing it at any specific hotel/venue that may do a shuttle service either.         We are currently looking into an option; whether we hire someone from a limo company or taxi place, <strong>or even a family member who is not of drinking age, or willing to be the DD the night of our reception so that guests can have a few drinks if they so choose.</strong>  Is this a necessity that I offer a DD service to my guests, or am I worrying to much about an issue that as adults, my guests should be smart about, choosing whether or not to partake in drinking at the reception?  I've seen on Pinterest boards and other magazines, picture frames or a board up with numbers to taxi services, so that if needed they could call. I'm not to sure how I feel about that.  Just thought I'd ask, while we're still hashing out some of these smaller details.
    Posted by teachmegs1[/QUOTE]

    <div>A shuttle would be  nice if you can afford it, but not necessary. Whenever I go to weddings and drink, as an adult, I know I'm responsible for finding a safe way home.</div><div>
    </div><div>To the bolded: please don't do this. It is not fair to your guests (regardless of drinking age) to ask them to work at your wedding. </div>
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    [QUOTE]        Any weddings that I have been to, have always been at a specific hall/restaurant/venue that has always offered a shuttle service.  We are having a vintage barn wedding, and all of our out of town guests have family from here, who have made arrangements to let them stay, the weekend of our wedding.  So, with that said, we are not blocking off any hotel rooms that may/may not offer a shuttling service, nor are we doing it at any specific hotel/venue that may do a shuttle service either.         We are currently looking into an option; whether we hire someone from a limo company or taxi place, or even a family member who is not of drinking age, or willing to be the DD the night of our reception so that guests can have a few drinks if they so choose.  Is this a necessity that I offer a DD service to my guests, or am I worrying to much about an issue that <strong>as adults, my guests should be smart about, choosing whether or not to partake</strong> <strong>in drinking at the reception?  I've seen on Pinterest boards and other magazines, picture frames or a board up with numbers to taxi services, so that if needed they could call</strong>. I'm not to sure how I feel about that.  Just thought I'd ask, while we're still hashing out some of these smaller details.
    Posted by teachmegs1[/QUOTE]

    I wouldnt worry about it. I am sure that your guests have been to plenty of weddings and have faced this before. They are adults & can make their own choices. I do think its nice of you to want to provide them with an option for a ride home, but I really wouldnt worry too much. They will figure it out.
    Dont do anything you see on Pinterest that is related to weddings. Its all awful.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to DD's for rides home : A shuttle would be  nice if you can afford it, but not necessary. Whenever I go to weddings and drink, as an adult, I know I'm responsible for finding a safe way home. 
    Posted by kristbot[/QUOTE]

    <div>This. It's not your responsibility. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to DD's for rides home : A shuttle would be  nice if you can afford it, but not necessary. Whenever I go to weddings and drink, as an adult, I know I'm responsible for finding a safe way home. To the bolded: please don't do this. It is not fair to your guests (regardless of drinking age) to ask them to work at your wedding. 
    Posted by kristbot[/QUOTE]

    We are leery on asking any of our older cousins about driving for that reason too.  Even though, I know some of them may get reeled into doing it, by being asked by other family members.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: DD's for rides home : We are leery on asking any of our older cousins about driving for that reason too.  Even though, I know some of them may get reeled into doing it, by being asked by other family members.
    Posted by teachmegs1[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's one thing for guests to arrange these things on their own, just stay away from doing it for them.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: DD's for rides home : We are leery on asking any of our older cousins about driving for that reason too.  Even though, I know some of them may get reeled into doing it, by being asked by other family members.
    Posted by teachmegs1[/QUOTE]

    <div>If other family members ask them, that is their business. They can always say no. </div>
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  • If you can get a shuttle, that's great. If you can't, it's a guest's responsibility to, well, drink responsibly. It's not your responsiblity to get them home safe, it's theirs. I think it may be handy if you arm yourself, the hubbs and parents with a short list of cab companies just in case because you seem really worried about this.
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  • ditto PPs.  Even with a shuttle service to a hotel local guests are responsible for finding their own way home.  They'll all manage just fine.

    I don't think having the number of local cabs handy is an awful idea; but I also don't think it's necessary to cutsey it up in a frame.  Just make sure the bartender and maybe your parents or you (whoever's acting as host) has them in case someone asks.
  • I just want to thank you for asking this question, because I'm in a similar situation and had been wondering.
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  • I may be reading your OP wrong, but many people can have 3 drinks over a 5 hour period with a large meal and be fine to drive. I'm not one of them so I plan ahead : Taxi numbers available is a good idea, but otherwise good to go.
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    I have never gone to a wedding where we didn't know how we were getting home.  Whether it was a shuttle tha was supplied from a hotel or we planned on doing a taxi, a known/trusted DD, whatever.  I would assume most responsibe adults would do the same.  2 of the 3 of our hotels have a shuttle option (we let our guests know there was a small fee) and we plan to have taxi info available if anyone asks.  
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: DD's for rides home : This. It's not your responsibility. 
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    I would disagree only because of something I read about in the newspaper. I used to be a papergirl when I was younger and I read stories where brides and grooms and their venue would get sued and held accountable for the death of someone because one of their guests got too drunk at their wedding, drove and killed someone. I'm not saying I agree with it, it should be the person's responsibility if they drive or not, but if anyone notices that someone could even be SLIGHTLY too drunk to drive and allows them to drive and anything happens and authorities find out, that person or persons can be held accountable some way.

    I would definitely try to hire a driver for the night. I have some seen some stupid crap people get away with for sueing now adays, I would just be careful.
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