Listing parent's name on the ceremony program?

megan8290

My FI's dad passed away 2 years ago and my dad is estranged. I grew up in a single family household. Do I list FI's dad and my dad's name on the program under Groom's parents and Bride's parents? 

We are not having a formal seating of the mothers.

pokepoke27

Firstly, programs are not required unless you are having a very complicated ceremony. You may want to skip them all together. 

If your father and mother are not together I would put them on seperate lines on the programs:

Parents of the Bride:

Mom's name (plus step parent if applicable)

Dad's name (plus step parent if applicable)

As far as for FIs dad, I would talk to him about what he wants to do. H's step father (that raised him) passed away a few years ago. I asked about putting him in the programs and he was uncomfortable with it, so we didn't do it. If he does want his father to be listed in the program, I would have a small in memorium section with his name in it, rather than listing him under "parents of the groom". If FMIL is remarried, I would put:

Parents of the Groom:

Mom's name plus step parent

 

If not:

Mother of the Groom:

Moms name

ajdarrell

My dad past away and even though my parents weren't together when he passwed he was listed with a quote by his name "to live in the hearts of those we love, is not to die" I think if he had a signifigant impact in your life its nice to honour them