So... my mom and I are still trying to work out our guest list, to stay under budget and yet still invite the ridiculous amount of friends and family that we have. She's paying for everything, so when she keeps adding people to the list I just keep quiet until she realizes how many people we have one, and then cuts some people. Of course, she often ends up adding more, but we've at least gotten the list so that it's not more than the amount of people who fit in the room.
Well, we're arguing over my cousin, who was divorced several years ago and has been living with a new boyfriend for the past year. If she was still married, I know my mom wouldn't hesitate to invite her husband, but she's insisting that we don't need to invite my cousin's boyfriend. From what I've read on here, my cousin and her boyfriend are a social unit, as they've been living together for about a year and it'll be almost 2 years by the time the wedding comes around, and should absolutely be invited together.
But... Mom's paying and she says she doesn't want to invite him, because he's just a boyfriend and it's not necessary.
We're not addressing invitations until April, but that's coming up fast. Does anyone have any good arguments I could use? "They're a social unit" did not work at all. And... worse comes to worse and I can't convince her... should I just address the invitation to both of them and ignore what my Mom wants? Or should I do what (I think) is the rude thing to do and go with what Mom says because she's paying?
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