Super nosy moh

mrsamyjones

Ok i'm all for having a moh that is excited and interested in helping me along in the planning process. The problem I do have is that my MOH is starting to cross lines like asking how much money is left in the budget, dictating that I must pay for hair and make-up (which I haven't required of any of the girls) and getting involved in our financial issues outside of the wedding.( i.e. she will bring up how much FI makes at dinner in front of our friends, and how we are spending our money) How do I politely tell her it's none of her business and to butt out of our finances?

Calumet

Hey BFF it makes me really uncomfortable when you bring up my finances in front of other people, and actually... I don't really like talking about it with you. For me, it's something personal, and I don't like to have to talk about/justify my finances.

mandybear7

She's your best friend and maid of honor. Be honest with her and say you don't want to talk about it.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

How does she know how much your FI makes?! My own mother doesn't even know how much money FI and I make.

lauralaur

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[QUOTE]Ok i'm all for having a moh that is excited and interested in helping me along in the planning process. The problem I do have is that my MOH is starting to cross lines like asking how much money is left in the budget, dictating that I must pay for hair and make-up (which I haven't required of any of the girls) and getting involved in our financial issues outside of the wedding.( i.e. she will bring up how much FI makes at dinner in front of our friends, and how we are spending our money) <strong>How do I politely tell her it's none of her business and to butt out of our finances?
</strong>Posted by mrsamyjones[/QUOTE]

Say "Friend, I love you, but our finances are none of your business so please butt out." Done. :)

lannerjarv

i'm with mery.. how does she know what you guys make??

mrsamyjones

We've been lax in the past with giving her information, it's really our own fault, but when she shares that information with others when we're in public or other friends it puts us in a very awkward situtation. I'm frankly just kind of tired of it.

janedoe1113a

She's your best friend, so you should be able to tell her that your finances are none o her business.

squirrly

Just tell her.  Some people don't think of that stuff as something to be kept private.  Weirds me out, but FI's family is in that "some people" group, and I think they're miffed I won't talk about it with them.  Ask her to stop when you're not in front of others first, and if she doesn't stop, interrupt her when she mentions it and say, "I'm sorry - I'm not really comfortable with discussing that.  How about those [insert sports team mascot here]?"

Catwoman708

First of all STOP TELLING her!

Tell her "FI and I aren't comfortable sharing that information with you, and would appreciate it if you didn't share that with others". 

notaprincessbride

On the hair and makeup thing, have you said anything that made her think you might be considering requiring anything specific?  I was in a wedding where the cost of being a BM was getting really out of hand, so I casually mentioned to the bride that I considered it something that should be covered IF she required us all to have it done.  On the bringing up your finances, I agree with everyone else- just tell her it bugs you.