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Memorial Ideas

Our wedding is just over a month away, and I do not know how to acknowledge those that can't be there with us.

My future MIL lost her dad 6 months ago.  The father of the groom also lost his mother within the last 10 years.  My mom has lost both of her parents (12, and 20 years ago), and my dad lost his mom 20 years ago (but now his father just got engaged for the 5th time).  Also my finances grandma's cousin lost her husband this year.

We want to pay tribute to those that cannot be there with us, but we do not want it to be overly emotional, and also be sensitive to my grandpa's new fiance.

Most of my family will not be able to be there on our wedding day, as we are getting married 1000 miles away from where I grew up. 

Any ideas on how to do this tastefully?
 

Re: Memorial Ideas

  • We just had a short note in our program that basically said "In Loving Memory" and listed my dad and our grandparents.
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  • I've seen a lot of people do pictures on the card table, which I think looks nice.  I put pictures in my bouquet, but I only had 2 pictures- I think you'd have too many to do that.
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  • My JP is reading this during the ceramony.   My father passed away 13 years ago

    Special Memorial



    This is such a special day to celebrate

    _____________ and ______________

    wanted to do take a moment to remember those special people who aren’t with us in person, but are here in spirit.



    For on this special day we bring

    messages that ring on high of love, joy, peace, and happiness to those who have past on before us.



    For they are always in our hearts and minds

    especially during these joyous times.



    Were are sending our prayers and messages to those we love, that now reside in Heaven above



  • I like the idea of a family wedding pictures table.  It's subtle, and much more a celebration of life and love than a reminder of recent loss.
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  • We just had a quote at the bottom of our program about missing people and mentioned my grandparents who were deceased or too sick to come and andy's mom who passed in october.  We had our families' wedding pictures too but that was more fun than a memorial.
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  • We're going to have a memorial table and have pictures of our loved ones that have passed.  Both my father's parents died this last year, and I wanted to acknowledge them, FI only has a couple of pictures to put out, but I thought it would be nice.
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  • I did not write that.  My JP gave it to us as a optionin the ceremony.
  • Late to this but at our reception 3 weeks ago, we had a "pub" table with pics of our dads with their families.  Mine died last October and T's died a few years ago.  I also found a nice card a Hallmark which was a sympathy card but the verse was so beautiful and it didn't have the usual "with sympathy" in the body of it....it just reiterated about missing loved ones during special times.  And at one point during the reception, T put a bottle of beer and a glass of scotch on the table - each dad's favorite drink.
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