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People who dislike you...

...but you can't help but like them

IRL or on The Knot.

There's a woman I got off the phone with and I know she dislikes me. She disagrees with me on just about everything, but I can't help but like the lady.
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    There was a woman in my doc cohort that always seemed like she has a stick up her butt, and was so utterly opinionated on everything. When ever a discussion on race came up, people rolled their eyes--because she would just go to town.

    But, I cannot help but like her because the way she presents her thoughts and opinions, while often over-the-top and out of control, makes me very proud of her (not knowing her too well) for sticking to her guns every.single.time.
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    There are sooo many people here that I like but I doubt like me.  I'm ok with that.

    IRL, I really like one of my co-workers, but I can tell she's just like "eh" about me.  I think she's really cool.
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    Pretty much all of the friends I've made in the last five years or so have said that when they first met me, they thought I was going to be an uptight, obnoxious pill, but then they changed their minds. I'm glad they did.

    I'm not sure who's harboring hatred of me around here. If anyone is, they haven't brought it up in FFF as far as I can tell.
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    Sorry to sidetrack, but Rach... every time I see your picture I get all smiley about your dress.  I love it SO MUCH.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_people-dislike?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ab379404-fab5-4746-8172-1fdcab9c15edPost:e5c2a054-11a7-4233-8a9e-4bf1e7c31484">Re: People who dislike you...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Sorry to sidetrack, but Rach... every time I see your picture I get all smiley about your dress.  I love it SO MUCH.
    Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

    How strange!! That's what happens to me too <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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    Sarah, I think the way you present your opinions is smart and while people may not agree with everything you say, you aren't out to start a disrespectful argument, which makes it nearly impossible to me to dislike you.
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    [QUOTE]Pretty much all of the friends I've made in the last five years or so have said that when they first met me, <strong>they thought I was going to be an uptight, obnoxious pill</strong>, but then they changed their minds. I'm glad they did. I'm not sure who's harboring hatred of me around here. If anyone is, they haven't brought it up in FFF as far as I can tell.
    Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

    My friends have said this to me too. Glad they decided not to stick to the judgement.
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    Yeah, Sarah...sorry, but I forgot to tell you that I really don't like you at all.  AT ALL.

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    I come off as aloof to some people, only because it takes me a while to open up IRL.  But once I do, I'm really silly.  Honestly, I don't know a whole lot of people who don't like me IRL.  I think there are a few on here though, but typically I don't hold grudges, so I like them all just fine.

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    Well, my ill-considered rant from yesterday earned me some biitchpoints from people I admire on this site - fishy, buddhagouda, and sarah come to mind.  I'm hoping to just take a shellacking on the fff thread and hopefully it'll blow over. 

    IRL, I can't think of anyone.  If there's someone I really like or dislike, it's pretty much mutual. 


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    That would be you, Fishy.  :-)  Oh, and P2.  Actually, I really don't know if they dislike me or not.  Also, Lala cracks me up, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't care for me.

    I don't know of anyone who dislikes me IRL, but there probably are. 
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    I definitely also fit that category where when I met my girlfriends, they thought I'd be a mega-bitch at first, and I them. Now we're all like... bosom buddies and such Wink

    (I just wanted to say 'bosom buddies' really...)
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    Ohwhynot - It always blows over.  I'm pretty sure you'd have to act bitchy for a really long time for it to stick in people's minds.  That's what I always count on, anyway. 
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    edited February 2010
    Meh, I don't really dislike folks. I just get closer to some folks than I do to others. And if someone doesn't like me, it usually makes it harder to grow close to someone.

    As for the folks on here that have expressed dislike for me (p2 and alix come to mind) I try not to take it personally (I figure that kind of stuff is pretty temporary on here anyway) and make an effort to stay friendly. Most of the regs here, including the ones that dislike me, actually have something interesting to say, and I'd rather be on good terms with them because I enjoy chatting and interacting with folks on the board.
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    I come off bitchy as well.  But, I smile and laugh a lot so it doesn't take people long to realize, I'm nice.  As long as you are not an idiot or rude with no manners.

    Alix hates me, but I'm still in love with her. 

    IRL:  hmmm.  I can't think of anyone, I am sure there are people.
     
    TK: i bet lots of people.  i like a lot of people here. 

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    There are a couple of newbs from invites that don't like me, and some of the old regs on my local who skirt the vendor rules pretty closely aren't really sure about me (I mod there too).  On E. . . I dunno.  I sort of suspect that Fishy's not my biggest fan, but maybe I'm reading into things.

    IRL, there are definitely some people who don't like me.  FI's ex, my ex, and one or two of my software users who do NOT understand how to use said software and want me to either do it for them or make it go away.  Sorry.
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    IRL I don't notice people who don't like me. I usually make snap judgements and I can tell in about 3.6 seconds if we are going to like each other, and if not I don't waste time getting to know you. That sounds weird, but I don't know how else to say it. I'm not mean or bitchy, and it RARELY happens that I meet someone I know I'm not going to like or she's not going to like me. I like most everyone I meet.

    On TK I didn't think daff cared for me until last week, which shocked me, and I don't think I've really read anything on here to make me think someone doesn't like me, except that mess with jessjo. But let's not revisit, mmmkay?
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    Squirrly reminds me, FI's ex HATES me, but that's not really a shocker.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_people-dislike?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ab379404-fab5-4746-8172-1fdcab9c15edPost:c1de0042-fa2a-4aae-957c-d7c6a7a2f3ab">Re: People who dislike you...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Squirrly reminds me, FI's ex HATES me, but that's not really a shocker.
    Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, same here. 
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    Well, it seems J&K thinks I'm a fucktard from yesterdays thread and I like her just fine.

    I didn't claim carnal knowledge of the medical field, I was just asking opinions on ADHD/ADD/ODD and what people thought of the amount of children on medication.  I guess I mistakenly thought the conversation was going fine...
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_people-dislike?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ab379404-fab5-4746-8172-1fdcab9c15edPost:361e48ee-185a-4ea2-a990-cdc169dee196">Re: People who dislike you...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well, my ill-considered rant from yesterday earned me some biitchpoints from people I admire on this site - fishy, buddhagouda, and sarah come to mind.  I'm hoping to just take a shellacking on the fff thread and hopefully it'll blow over.  IRL, I can't think of anyone.  If there's someone I really like or dislike, it's pretty much mutual. 
    Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

    <div>Don't sweat it. You were willing to reconsider your snap judgment on some things and defend the points you felt strongly about. I can't dislike that. </div>
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    edited February 2010
    I don't know who outright dislikes me. Sometimes when people just ignore me when I address them specifically in threads, I wonder if they don't care for me, but that's all I can do. And usually if I'm addressing them I do like them, so that sucks I suppose. IRL I've had the same issue as Sarah and Alix... people who dislike me right away often end up becoming good friends. It's weird but I love when things turn out that way.



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