our date wasn't our first choice, but it was the one best compatible with our schedule. It wasn't until after we had put the deposit down that we found out it was on her birthday. I felt bad, but FI quickly dismissed any possibility that there would be an issue.
MIL said his aunt seemed mildly pissed until she was told it wasn't our first choice, but since we are public safety workers & work shift work that we had limited options.
Since then, his cousin has made mildly snarky remarks, always to me, never to him....and always in a way that leaves little room for interpretation, IMHO as a female. I mentioned itnto him in passing today, but being a dude he has a "whatever...she can suck it up" attitude. She's said things like, "What, did you PLAN it that way?" - "You know it's my birthday, right?" - "I'll try not to get TOO drunk at the reception" - "Aren't you worried I'll steal the limelight?"
See what I mean?
When I apologized and explained our reasons, she laughed it off (half jokingly) and said it wasn't a problem, but why else would she continue to make comments? Do I say something each time she does? Change the subject? Ignore?Get her a special cupcake at the reception?
It's not a monumental birthday, they arent close, the extensded family does often celebrate birthdays together.
