A friend of mine invited me to her bridal shower (via a phone call!) 5 days before the scheduled event. She apologized profusely stating that because I had been on vacation a few weeks prior, and she didn't have my address, she wasn't able to mail me the invite. Supposedly the RSVP's were due while I was away. (I went out with this girl 2 days before my trip and she said nothing about the bridal shower to me then, nor did she ask for my mailing address. When I came back from my trip, we exchanged emails and still nothing). I didn't attend the shower for a variety of reasons. Married friends of mine told me that I was likely invited because the bride was "low on numbers" and therefore needed "fillers" (this was a bigger party at a restaurant/hall).
The wedding is in September. The RSVPs were due 10 days ago and I haven't replied (yes I got this invite on time). I really want to attend but am wondering if after the whole shower fiasco I should even bother? Any thoughts? The bride and I aren't close now but for many years we were the best of friends. Why would anyone send out a last minute invite for such an important event that is usually planned months in advance? I'm not married. I'm not even engaged but I've been a part of A LOT of weddings and even I know this wasn't proper etiquette.