Hey ladies-- I scrolled down to see if there was a similar situation, but couldn't find anything and I really could use some help!
FI and I got engaged April 2010 and had an engagement party 5 months later, where we invited mostly friends, since our families aren't very big. We are not getting married until November 2012 (longest engagement ever), but I plan on sending STD's out in February 2012 since our wedding is the Saturday before Thanksgiving. Starting to think about my guest list now, and I realized that a lot of my friendships have changed since last year.
I used to be part of a small group of friends until one of the friends who thought she was the "leader" (really, it was like she was stuck in 6th grade) started to become rather...emotionally abusive. I cut her out of my life, and limited my discussion of her to the other girls I was friends with. It seems like the other girls have stopped realizing that I exist and they all treat me differently now, so it seems that the ex-friend has turned them against me.
Now I'm put in the awkward situation of...do I invite these girls or not? One of them, who we will call *Mary* was a really good friend throughout college, but I really feel like she dumped me as a friend since she became close to the girl I stopped talking to.
I promise I'm NOT trying to use my guest list as revenge/personal attacks on people, but seeing as how I'm trying to keep my guest list around 100-120 people, I really don't want to invite people that aren't loyal friends anymore. I don't know what to do, because I either invite this friend and feel like it's a pity invite OR invite the other two who I talk to occasionally, but not Mary.
What's the etiquette for not inviting people who you invited to your engagement party, and what should I do about Mary? Thanks fellow knotties!