Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness

guesswhoIam2

Alas I can admit actually knowing the bride-to-be who put this together. I'm a bit surprised by the level of tackiness it has reached, though. I wonder if anybody has tried to stop them or suggested that they visit the knot?

http://kevinanddawnwedding.blogspot.com/p/registry.html

Loopyseven

Oh dear God.  Paypal, right on their wedding website...

kd.joseph

Wow, just when you think you've seen it all.

And I love how it's priced out, even down to the tastes of Ireland. (gag)

misshart00

I like that they want their guests to pay for a passport. End sarcasm.

AdeleDazeem

Who are you?  I can't guess.

lyndausvi

A passport?  Really?  I guess it was nice of them to split it up so 2 people can buy his damn passport.

 I can just see them stalking their PayPal account for cash for the wedding.

AdeleDazeem

Also - why do they need three tickets for the Ring of Kerry tour but only one for Normal Castle?  How many people are going on this honeymoon?

ootmother2

Perhaps someone could break the news to them about the real prices in Ireland & England?

Just a thought

lyndausvi

Not sure how has been bought, but I calculated they are asking for $4500.

Now I don't mind the concept of buying an activity for a honeymoon.  I've gone directly through a resort and bought something for a honeymoon couple.  

 But airfare?  Passport?  Lodging?  Really?  

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness : And "shopping in the showroom" at the Waterford factory. They want their guests to buy their souvenirs. And expensive ones at that.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

It's not really all that it's cracked up to be.  I thought about buying some stuff to fill out collections that I already have but I could do better at their outlets at Clinton Crossing in Connecticut or even Marshalls

LeiselEB

The passport thing is killing me. Goodness gracious.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness : It's not really all that it's cracked up to be.  I thought about buying some stuff to fill out collections that I already have but I could do better at their outlets at Clinton Crossing in Connecticut or even Marshalls
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

<div>But it was bought in Ireland !!!</div><div>
</div><div>Says the girl who had to get  Swarovski crystal in Austria, Murano glass in Italy, African drum in South Africa, Venetian masks in Venice,  wool tartans in England, chop stick in Japan, well you get the idea.</div><div>
</div><div>I would have Waterford from Ireland, but it was closed the day I was there.</div>

jessicabessica

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[QUOTE]Also - why do they need three tickets for the Ring of Kerry tour but only one for Normal Castle?  How many people are going on this honeymoon?
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

<div>Joy, I think they broke it up into more manageable gift sizes for the convenience of their guests.  Sadly, I have seen this, too (airfare, 10 x $75 each--that type of thing).  </div>

KristinAndAlan

The presentation is a bit tacky.. but who are we to judge? Who cares if they would rather have a passport instead of a blender, or a ticket to a show rather than an overpriced blanket. I'd say this conversation is more tacky than the act of the honeymoon registry. Geez, ladies.

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]The presentation is a bit tacky.. but who are we to judge? Who cares if they would rather have a passport instead of a blender, or a ticket to a show rather than an overpriced blanket. I'd say this conversation is more tacky than the act of the honeymoon registry. Geez, ladies.
Posted by KristinAndAlan[/QUOTE]
People need to be responsible for their own damn passports, end of story.

ElleB87

Ha! Wow...after side-eyeing the general stupidity of all of this I have to laugh at how badly they have priced things out. H and I got married in Ireland last year and I would have loved for things to have been so cheap!

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]The presentation is a bit tacky.. but who are we to judge? Who cares if they would rather have a passport instead of a blender, or a ticket to a show rather than an overpriced blanket. I'd say this conversation is more tacky than the act of the honeymoon registry. Geez, ladies.
Posted by KristinAndAlan[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Well, I had a bad experience with a HM.  The couple had all these awesome things to purchase for their HM.    I spent a little more than we normally do to give them an awesome activity.   </div><div>
</div><div>Then we found out they had ZERO intention of doing any of the the things they had registered for.  I later found out all these registries do is give the couple a check.</div><div>
</div><div>It just rubs me the wrong way.  Especially things like passports and airfare.  I fell those things the couple should be able to safe up for themselves.  Much like the saving for a home.    </div>

KristinAndAlan

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness : Well, I had a bad experience with a HM.  The couple had all these awesome things to purchase for their HM.    I spent a little more than we normally do to give them an awesome activity.    Then we found out they had ZERO intention of doing any of the the things they had registered for.  I later found out all these registries do is give the couple a check. It just rubs me the wrong way.  Especially things like passports and airfare.  I fell those things the couple should be able to safe up for themselves.  Much like the saving for a home.    
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>It is what it is, this is a random couple that none of us know.. How can you assume they just want a check? I think it's embarrassingly rude that everyone is so negative. They don't want things for around the home, so they asked for somthing they want.. Who cares? This poor couple is being made fun of publicly without even knowing. It's sad.</div>

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness : It is what it is, this is a random couple that none of us know.. How can you assume they just want a check? I think it's embarrassingly rude that everyone is so negative. They don't want things for around the home, so they asked for somthing they want.. Who cares? This poor couple is being made fun of publicly without even knowing. It's sad.
Posted by KristinAndAlan[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't know about this couple.  I just know from past experience how these things work.  At the end of the period, the couple just gets a check.</div><div>
</div><div>My own honeymoon required me to be paid off 60 days before the wedding.  Most wedding gifts come in right before the wedding.  Assuming they are leaving right after the wedding, I don't get how a guest could really be paying for the HM if the couple would already have to paid for their flights, etc,</div><div>
</div><div>The couple made the site public,  when you do that you are setting yourself up for criticism  </div>

sparkles776

I think HM registries are tacky in general, but this is really bad. I understand people not needing stuff from combining 2 apartments, so dont register. I love how they are asking for shopping money.

violet355

i guess the only good thing about it is that they're not using a honeymoon registry site that would take a cut of the money you're giving them.  so at least the $75 you donated towards "plane tickets" would go them, and not $60 to the couple and $15 to the site.

still tacky.  not unlike a girl i know who has a honeymoon registry (2nd marriage at 28) but doesn't even have fake things for you to purchase....or a listed destination for the couple or anything.  you can at least put some mild effort into your money grab.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness : It is what it is, this is a random couple that none of us know.. How can you assume they just want a check? I think it's embarrassingly rude that everyone is so negative. They don't want things for around the home, so they asked for somthing they want.. Who cares? This poor couple is being made fun of publicly without even knowing. It's sad.
Posted by KristinAndAlan[/QUOTE]

The couple is a bunch of idiots and the only thing embarrassingly rude is asking people to pay for your sex fest that you obviously can't pay for yourself.  It's one thing to pay for your trip and ask for excursions it's a very different thing to ask people to pay for you to even start planning the thing.  I mean lets be for real, if you can't afford a passport on your own then you shouldn't be going to Ireland.  If you can't afford the flight, shouldn't be going to Ireland.  If you can't see where this is wrong, well you shouldn't be going to Ireland. 

hoffse

I know people keep saying it, but I'm still really having trouble with a passport.  Didn't is say the wedding is in February?  I presumably they're going on their HM right after?  He needs to get on that one.  I can see them going in like December to get his passport and it not arriving in time.

MrsMack10612

We're going to Ireland for our HM and we're doing a lot of the same things they are; but I could not imagine asking friends/family to pay for it.

We spent 1 or 2 years researching exactly what we wanted to do when we got there and how we wanted to do it.

We've had to pay for most everything already, I'm not sure how they expect this to work.

rachelm13

I agree with most of the PP. BEYOND tacky.  What also gets me is that they didn't even do the proper research for pricing/spelling!  My fiance is currently living in Ireland (transferred for work for a year).  I just got back earlier this week and really, they have so many things that are inaccurate it's sad.  Yes, it's not cheap.  Euro is roughly $1.30 USD.  I can't even touch the passport issue.  I need a drink... and a bite on the train x4.

[Deleted User]

Wow....I went to a wedding where they didn't need anything so they registered at a travel agent. They didn't ask for specific parts or for everything to be paid for. Any gift certificates they received would be used towards extra like tours, spa packages, etc. They had enough to pay for the basic trip to the resort. Our gifts just allowed them to do more extra stuff on their trip which I didn't think was tacky.

AzRunner

Klassy!

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]The presentation is a bit tacky.. but who are we to judge? Who cares if they would rather have a passport instead of a blender, or a ticket to a show rather than an overpriced blanket. I'd say this conversation is more tacky than the act of the honeymoon registry. Geez, ladies.
Posted by KristinAndAlan[/QUOTE]
There are much better ways to go about this, and one of those is not including a freaking PayPal link on your registry page.

All they had to do was avoid making a registry at stores (which they did) and skip the registry page on their website. When people ask where they're registered, they just say, "Oh, we don't need anything. We're saving for a trip to Ireland." Their parents can spread the same when relatives ask them.

Most people give cash at weddings anyway. So, really, by not having any kind of registry, this couple can take all of the cash they get from the wedding and use it to pay for their honeymoon without looking like they're sponsoring a fundraiser. They'll have to cough up the $100 for passports since those need to be purchased in advance, but that's part of being an adult.

It's the PayPal link and price list that bugs me more than anything. If they really did feel a need for a registry page, they could have just put something like, "We're saving for a trip to Ireland!" Even registry pages don't contain price lists, just links to the various stores.

haileyschwebbs

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[QUOTE]The presentation is a bit tacky.. but who are we to judge? Who cares if they would rather have a passport instead of a blender, or a ticket to a show rather than an overpriced blanket. I'd say this conversation is more tacky than the act of the honeymoon registry. Geez, ladies.
Posted by KristinAndAlan[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>tend to agree with this lovely lady... who are we to judge... people in this generation dont have the money to drop on a honeymoon... currently my FI and i are trying to liquidate a few stocks to get the 5k for our honeymoon... so i say to each their own... everyone has a registry so who cares if its 30 bucks instead of a friggin towel set... and furthermore.. maybe they live together and have allof these things already. </div>

Girlie1030

I think it's not cool to link to their website with all of that personal information. 

arrestclementine

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon registry taken to a new height of tackiness : tend to agree with this lovely lady... who are we to judge... people in this generation dont have the money to drop on a honeymoon... currently my FI and i are trying to liquidate a few stocks to get the 5k for our honeymoon... so i say to each their own... <strong>everyone has a registry so who cares if its 30 bucks instead of a friggin towel set... and furthermore.. maybe they live together and have allof these things already. </strong>
Posted by haileyschwebbs[/QUOTE]

Not everyone has a registry.  We didn't.  We didn't need anything, or want anything.  The people that wanted to give gifts did, and those that wanted to give us cash or checks did so without the help of  paypal.