Who comes first - man or woman?

mcastillo11

When addressing INNER envelopes, is it inappropriate to use the woman's name first if a) she's a member of the family, or b) we have a closer relationship with her?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Ladies first. Always.

banana468

Ladies go first but the inner envelope is generally where names aren't present.

The outer reads 'Mr. and Mrs. John Smith' and the inner reads 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith'.

scarlettc27

There are tons of rules, and it depends on the situation.  One rule of thumb is never separate a man from his last name. 

One reason a woman might be listed first is if she has a professional title and her husband doesn't, i.e. "Dr. Jane and Mr. John Doe".