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lyndausvi

Having a bus is not against etiquette.  I had a trolley for my wedding.  I see buses for weddings all he time.    In this case it's having a bus seems like a great plan.  

Having the bus 20 miles away, well that is a different story.    

I would think having 2 different pick up spots would be better.  One far away for those who don't want to drive at all and one closer for people who might need a quicker get a way.

lyndausvi

stupid question, but if it's in the middle of nowhere are there not any fields or something closer?

ootmother2

I don't think its' rude if the hosts provide transportation.

I attended a wedding in Martha's Vineyard (no parking as far as the eye can see) so the host rented 4 school busses to transport everyone from the hotel to the church to the reception (on the beach at their home) and anytime anyone wanted to go home or go surfing the bus was available.

Yes, he was one of those Wall Street Capitalist Pigs but we loved him anyhow.  plus he did remember where he came from

LeiselEB

I've been to many weddings where people park a little further, and then big fancy golf carts shuttle guests to and from. I think as long as the bus runs frequently, it's fine. 

I'm assuming they'll also have a bus take people back to their cars throughout the night? 

Avion22

I don't think people should be "required" to take the bus. It would really bother me to know that I couldn't have my own vehicle nearby, or that I might not be able to leave when I wanted to. I would probably decline to attend an event like that...it would just make me feel trapped.

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[QUOTE]I don't think people should be "required" to take the bus. It would really bother me to know that I couldn't have my own vehicle nearby, or that I might not be able to leave when I wanted to. I would probably decline to attend an event like that...it would just make me feel trapped.
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</div><div>Me too. I mean, what if I don't feel well and want to leave? Do I have to wait 45 minutes for the bus to come back? Or will it constantly be running back and forth? That changes my answer a little bit, but it's still awkward and weird. I almost feel like you need two buses crossing over each way to pick people up here and there, running on a schedule through the whole night.

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lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would this be rude? : I know they don't want cars on their own fields and I'm assuming everything nearby is owned by someone. Plus, the road is apprently unpaved and hard to get down if it rains. I'll suggest that they find a closer place for the busses to pick up at. Thanks!
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</div><div>Well I would give a seriouse side-eye if I saw fields close to the house after riding 20 miles in a bus.    I get not wanting people to park on their lawn, but if they have fields I don't understand not making part of that available and then bus from there.  I fee like 20 miiles is too far.</div><div>
</div><div>In general though, I think transportation is a great idea.  There are locations that it make way more sense.   However, they only way it works well is to have plenty of busses available or the parking lot not very far so people do not have to wait very long.</div><div>
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I think as long as she lets people know about the parking situation & travel time time "Parking will 123 main street where transportation will take you for an approximate 20-30 minute scenice ride to the wedding location. The shuttle will continue to run through whatever time"

This way people can make sure they get their early enough to make sure they make it to the event on time, not getting to the parking lot with 10 minutes to go & expecting to make it to the location in time. My guess is that once some of the people see the driveway conditions, they will be glad they didn't have to drive their own vehicles on it & if it should rain, you won't have to worry about cars being stuck in the mud.

ericaandtom2012

I would not want to be riding a bus (I'm envisioning a school bus, a coach bus might be ok) for 20 miles in nice clothes.  I think your friend needs to find a parking location closer to the venue or find a different venue.  Some people get car-sick on bus rides (I am one of those people) and that would not be a fun start or end to the wedding.  

OliveOilsMom

I think your friend should try to find the closest possible location to park all of the cars.  And keep at least one bus to run a continuous circle (or at least wait at the house) for anyone who wants to/needs to leave early.  Then have the extra buses come back about an hour and half before the end of the wedding to help speed up the trips to and from the parking area.  You don't want your guests waiting forever for a ride back to the parking area.

QueerFemme

I probably would be irritated that I couldn't leave when I needed/wanted to.  Just like you said, what if someone has an emergency?   If it is only one bus, that has to drive 20 miles (which can take 30-40 minutes if it is on back/windy roads), realistically, the round trip with loading/unloading passengers could take 60-90 minutes.  That means anyone that just missed the bus, could be standing there for an hour and a half before the next bus?? 

I would try to find some sort of parking venue MUCH closer than 20 miles.  But, if she insists on this plan, I would tell her to hire at least 2, but possibly 3 buses so the wait in between rounds wasn't as long. 

Cortney1982

I wouldn't like that at all.  I don't like being stranded without my car.  If they have a field to clear out they should leave that option open.  If the lawn is expansive I don't see a problem parking cars on it.  Not like people are going to make cookies on it.  Grass bounces back quickly.

Peledreamsofrain

I'm kind of confused here. If renting fields is an option, then why not rent a closer field? Also, how is a road that is trecherous for cars safer for a bus to drive? Can't a craigslist ad be run asking for a field to rent nearby? Can you pay your friend to leave a small section of one of her fields fallow for the season? It would be a really small area, and not much of a loss to pay her for.

lily_721

We had trolleys for my wedding.  Parking was a pain at my venue.  We had two trolleys and they were available all night. 

My cousin's tacky wedding had one bus.  Transportation to get to the venue and one trip back at 1am.  I would have declined based on that alone.  I do not want to be trapped somewhere.

JanoBean75

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[QUOTE]I'm kind of confused here. If renting fields is an option, then why not rent a closer field? <strong>Also, how is a road that is trecherous for cars safer for a bus to drive?</strong> Can't a craigslist ad be run asking for a field to rent nearby? Can you pay your friend to leave a small section of one of her fields fallow for the season? It would be a really small area, and not much of a loss to pay her for.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

This is what I was thinking too. I'd suggest to your friend to look harder for a closer field or even get a different venue. Etiquette is about the comfort of the guests...and like many here, I'd be very uncomfortable having to leave my car in a field 20 minutes away.