My fiance dated this girl a few years ago and stayed friends with her ever since they broke up. She happens to be planning her wedding at the same time as we are and is getting married a month after us. A few weeks ago, we received a Save the Date from her. Rather, he received a StD, since my name wasn't included. It was addressed to "Mr. (my fiance's name) and guest". Now, he's told me that he always talks about me whenever he talks to her, so she's well aware of what my name is. Not to mention that my name is plastered all over his Facebook page. It's easy enough to find. We've been engaged for months, so it's not like we barely know each other. Doesn't etiquette state that if a guest you'd like to invite has a significant other, whether married, engaged, or in a serious relationship, then you're supposed to find out that person's name and include them on the StD/invite? That's what I did when I sent out my Save the Dates and it really didn't take much extra effort. I figured that it's simply a polite thing to do.
So I'm wondering... am I over-reacting? Or am I right in being offended that not only didn't she bother to hop online for a quick second or to text my fiance to find out the spelling of my name, but that she didn't even bother to include it at all, as though she considers me to be unimportant in my fiance's life? That's how it feels, anyway.
