Our invitations were supposed to go out last week. We have A LOT of out-of-country guests that need to know the details asap, and the invitations have a long way to travel. When we sent out other cards to the regions that our guests live, they have taken weeks to get there!
Anyways, the point is- invitations were already supposed to be in the mail. FMIL had over a year to compile her guest list, and still hasn't. I've sat down with her many times and helped her put together a list- she told me the info and I typed it all up, organized and all. I have emailed this list to her several times, as she always seems to "lose" it on her computer.
The problem is she STILL hasn't made up who to invite, doesn't have half the addresses, and doesn't even know the names of a bunch of guests! This is a problem in itself, but she's also taken to emailing me tidbits of information. Almost every day I wake up to emails saying "please add X, Y, Z to the list. The address for B is...", and when she comes over she has all sorts of post-its with chicken scratch of the info. I honestly can't keep up with her method of bit-by-bit additions, and haven't been able to always update HER list with all her new bits of info. When she asks me for the "latest" list, and I send it to her, she gets all annoyed that I don't have all the other bits of info that she has emailed me.
I don't want to be mean, but I asked her to put together a list. I tried helping her, but now it seems like she just won't do the list on her own- she just passes info to me and expects me to keep up (which I can't- she has over 150 guests and it's all over the place!). When fh asked her why she won't update her own list, she says she's "afraid to ruin it".
I'm so frustrated... first because we can't send out her invitations, and second because she won't do anything herself! Any advice on what to do? I don't want to piss her off, but I also don't want to be her secretary for the rest of the wedding-planning!