Can I e-mail my Save the Dates?

cupcakecassie

Since Fh and I are getting married right around Christmastime, we're going to be sending out STDs during April to let everyone know our plans before we mail out physical invites in August. I feel like emailing them would save money but I don't know if it's rude or not. Help!

kekr0202

I'm non traditional and while I don't like the idea of a Facebook invite or post or whatever, I don't see a problem with emailing an STD if it fits your event.  I would picture a small-ish event or a picnic.  I would not do this for a formal occasion.

LittleMissCutiePie

STDs in general are optional nowadays. I'd just go for a FB, that's what we did. Just assure your guests that they will receive a paper invite. I sent the FB, and a confused guest sent me a message saying "Wait, are you really too cheap to send me an invite in the mail". I had to explain that it was just a head's up.

KellyBrian2013

Personally, I think it's a bit tacky... and I'd probably side-eye it. STDs aren't mandatory, so if you don't want to send them, then don't.

Just remember that every person who gets a STD must be invited to the wedding. So if you accidently send a STD message to all 800 of your FB friends, well, guess you're having a big wedding.

mari0225

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_can-e-mail-save-dates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:afaf5744-2d4a-4d24-a6fb-23aa18236249Post:2a05259e-c6aa-4778-bcd7-8f6e5d211a83">Re: Can I e-mail my Save the Dates?</a>:
[QUOTE]Personally, I think it's a bit tacky... and I'd probably side-eye it. STDs aren't mandatory, so if you don't want to send them, then don't. Just remember that every person who gets a STD must be invited to the wedding. So if you accidently send a STD message to all 800 of your FB friends, well, guess you're having a big wedding.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

I agree, and yeah you don't have to send them at all so if money is an issue then don't worry about it.

mica178

You don't need to send STDs at all.

Don't FB the STDs.  That's just a disaster waiting to happen.  If you want to tell people to save the date, consider postcard STDs.  Be aware that some brides have had their emailed STDs forwarded to guests who weren't on the guest list.

Wiscisbliss

Email - Yes.
Facebook - No.

I did email STD's.  Example below:

mollyehren

If you can deal with people not getting their STD because it hit the spam filter, was sent to the trash accidently, not recieved into their email or because they don't have internet access then go ahead and do it by email. Between all those items I'm guessing MAYBE 50% will see it, unless you have alot of elderly invited and then even less. Facebook however is NEVER a good method....it rarely ends well. 

I'm going to assume finances are the reason. If you google free vista print postcards, and opt to make them in color you can get 100 for $5 or 100 with envelopes in color for $10. We went this route and everybody loved them.

cwill6212

I think it's tacky. I'd rather not receive one than to get one by email.

Simply Fated

I went with the paper option, but only because I was answering for myself lol. The closest people to me, that I KNOW I would be sending STDs to, don't have Facebook accounts. Some of those people don't even own computers.

LittleMissCutiePie

yaga, your Hunger Games Ticker is yelling at me.

jessicabessica

We emailed save the dates, similar to what wiscibliss posted.  We said "Dear Aunt Jane, Uncle Jim, and Kyle," so it was clear who was invited (we did one email per invitation, because we included a personalized link to our wedding website, and it would have been too complicated otherwise).  We printed some on plain postcards and mailed them to guests who don't use email.  

Invites go out 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding.  You're already giving people a heads up with the save the dates, if you send out the invites too early, they'll just get forgotten about.  

LittleMissCutiePie

Egads! I am! The computer lab at my school doesn't have anything else. CURSE YOU IE!

aragx6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I e-mail my Save the Dates? : Are you using Internet Explorer?  I've heard from someone else with IE that it's super big.  On Chrome (on both PCs and Macs) it's the same size as my other ticker.   I won't apologize because IE sucks. :)
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

Yeah I'm in IE and it's like woah big, but when I wsa on at home the other day it was A-OK. And yes, IE sucks -- and I have like a 3-versions ago edition.

DancesaurusRex

Rude? Why would emailed Save the Dates be rude? Yeesh. You're being quite polite by giving people a heads up ahead of time so they can make plans, buy plane tickets, etc.! Save the Dates aren't even required, really - they're just a nice thing to do, especially for faraway friends.