**Update** Venue

daffydillie

I called the venue coordinator today that said they did not want children at an open bar. They said no children under 12 and any underage kids that try to get served will be immediately be removed.

I think that is really reasonable. I am glad they clearified. I sent the deposit in and signed the contract. Yay.

Katelyn89

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[QUOTE]I'm confused. Aren't 12yr olds underage?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree. The venues logic seems a little off to me. I don't see why they chose an age cutoff of 12 if they are concerned with underage drinking.</div>

lyndausvi

At least your brother gets to come.

I still  think their rule is strange.   There are not many 10 years who are going to try and get a drink, especially with mom and dad around.  But as long as it works for you, that's cool.

daffydillie

When I talked to the guy he said they prefer no children at all because they do not want them to go out back to the river and they had a ton of problems with parents not watching their kids and they wondering to the river. I can completely get onboard with that. Which was a big reason we were not inviting young kids.

Even if they had said 18, they still would have been underage and have to be banded.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I'm confused. Aren't 12yr olds underage?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Yes, anyone between the ages of 12 and 20 are underaged and would be removed if they attempted to secure an alcoholic beverage. What don't you get?

Meegles4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Update Venue : Yes, anyone between the ages of 12 and 20 are underaged and would be removed if they attempted to secure an alcoholic beverage. What don't you get?
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

I think the point is that if you don't want underage kids, why make the cut off 12 and not 20?

OP, I don't remember your post, but I think your venue is weird. I had underage kids at my wedding (a 20 year old and several of the under 8 set). We had to pay a small "minor" fee, but that's about it. I assume the bartenders knew to card people that looked underage and as for the really little kids, they made fun non-alcoholic drinks for them, like Shirley Temples. Also, if some 17 year old tries to get a drink, why would they remove them and cause a scene? Just don't serve them.

I'm assuming you didn't want kids at the wedding and you're happy the bar is giving you that out, which is totally cool. But I still think their limit is weird.

daffydillie

The under 12 restriction has nothing to do with underage drinking. It has everything to do with their liability insurance being next to the river and past incidents they have had at the venue of the parents drinking and allowing their kids to take off unattended. I did find it weird until I talk to the coordinator about the circumstances surrounding it. Though I feel it should be a consistent rule, I respect the coordinators decision regarding the matter.

I support the bartenders asking underage people to leave if they try to get served. I do not foresee it being a problem and if it is, they have my permission to ask them to leave as well. I do not want to be responsible for an underage individual getting drunk and wrecking their car. They are also a volunteer organization that run the hall to make money. It is unfair to expect them to put their livelihoods on the line as well. I am not sure all states are like this, but if you serve alcohol to a minor you are ultimately responsible if they wreck or get killed. I do not want that on my conscious.