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No cel phones at reception

We're having our reception at FI's parent's country club.  We reserved the date and they just sent us a letter reminding us of club policies that they expect to be followed (we can't post a huge neon sign out front, no minors drinking, etc).  One of their policies is no cel phone usage at the clubhouse.  People can have their phones on silent and read texts/listen to voicemail, but are supposed to use the clubhouse phones for all conversations and keep ringers off.

My question is how, if at all, should I communicate this to our guests?  I don't want to be a bitch, but I also don't want my FIL's getting complaints from their country club because other members saw/heard guests on their cel phones in public areas (lobby, patio, etc).

What do you think the best way to handle this is?

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    edited January 2010
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    This seems incredibly strange to me.  I've never been to a secular venue that prohibits cell phone use at all in their facility.

    However, I'd go with word of mouth or the website.
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    Typically when it specific venue rules like this, it's okay to let your guests know.  You can put it on your wedding website if you have one or even just have an Usher or wedding party member go around and discreetly ask people to be sure that their phones are on silent or vibrate due to club policies.  Make sure people know it's the club rule and not you just being a crazy bride though. :)
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    I'd put a note on the card with the table assignments or guest book or somewhere.

    But this is really bizarre to me.  Shouldn't the club have a sign near the front door about it?  If someone is talking on their phone in violation of the policy, the club employees should come over and alert them to the policy.  That's what they do at the library.
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    I would do two things:

    I would put the following message
    1.  on the bottom of the reception card that goes in with your wedding invitation
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    2.  on a small card that will go on every single place setting at the reception venue:

    Please be aware that the Windemere Country Club does not permit the use of cell phones on the property, except for receiving voice mail or text messages.  If you will need to leave your cell phone on in case of emergency, please turn your phone to vibrate only; no audible sounds are allowed.
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    You can only do so much.  People are adults, they're going to do what they want. 

    Is there going to be someone from the facility there during the event?  If yes, I say post a note about it on your wedding website, and leave it at that.  If it happens during the event, it's the facility's rules, I'm sure they know how to politely ask someone to continue their conversation elsewhere. 
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    I'd put it on the website and make a note in any program if you have it. It's fine to alert people to the policies of the venue - what's rude is if you decided you didn't want anyone on cell phones at your reception for no reason.

    Something like: Due to club policies, cell phone use is not allowed in the club house. Please turn your phones to silent or vibrate. There is a phone located in the lobby for guest use. Thank you for understanding.

    And ditto that the servers will probably politely ask people to take their conversation elsewhere.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cel-phones-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b02ae2aa-099f-4aa1-8a3b-85dea079f3c5Post:78fbee44-2075-4d75-86c2-58cf340568d1">Re: No cel phones at reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm sorry. You have consistently misspelled the word cell. Please hang up and try again. If you need need help, hit the spell check button.
    Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

    Heh.

    I agree that this is a weird policy. What is the penalty for breaking it? Do you get fined or do people get bounced?



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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cel-phones-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b02ae2aa-099f-4aa1-8a3b-85dea079f3c5Post:917cf3fb-5b45-4f01-afad-12bffb94a1ca">Re: No cel phones at reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd put a note on the card with the table assignments or guest book or somewhere. But this is really bizarre to me.  Shouldn't the club have a sign near the front door about it?  If someone is talking on their phone in violation of the policy, the club employees should come over and alert them to the policy.  That's what they do at the library.
    Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

    Thanks for the advice, ladies.

    To clarify the situation, it's a private club and they've instituted the cell phone ban to try to maintain a certain (formal) atmosphere.  The only people allowed at the club are the country club members and their guests.  Members are supposed to be responsible for the behavior of their guests and members are all aware of the policy, so that's why they don't have a sign posted about it.

    Employees probably will ask anyone who is being really annoying on their cell phone to stop.  I'm not worried about anyone getting kicked out of the reception or anything like that. However, there may be other member around the club house who are there for dinner in the informal dining room who might give FIL's dirty looks for having "unruly" guests.  Not the end of the world, but a situation I would prefer to avoid.
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    I wouldn't notify people at all. It's a ridiculous policy. And if anyone needs to know about it, they'll find out at the time.

    I would hope that most guests would have the class to have their phones off during the reception anyway, but if they do have them on, so be it. If someone on staff sees them and says something, ok. But I wouldn't bother passing on such ridiculous details to all guests.
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    Honestly, I wouldn't even expect this to happen.  Unless there's an emergency, no one is going to be sitting and chatting on their cell phone during a wedding reception.  I really can't remember anyone even using their phone at my reception.  I wouldn't worry yourself too much over this one. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cel-phones-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b02ae2aa-099f-4aa1-8a3b-85dea079f3c5Post:f770c32e-8605-421d-9f7a-390e0f587995">Re: No cel phones at reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would do two things: I would put the following message 1.  on the bottom of the reception card that goes in with your wedding invitation and 2.  on a small card that will go on every single place setting at the reception venue: Please be aware that the Windemere Country Club does not permit the use of cell phones on the property, except for receiving voice mail or text messages.  If you will need to leave your cell phone on in case of emergency, please turn your phone to vibrate only; no audible sounds are allowed.
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    Sorry, I have to disagree. Please don't do this. Especially on the invite reception card. There are very few things that should go on the invite cards, and this is not one of them (now if you want to put it on the logistics/directions insert with your invites or on the web site that's fine. Other posters had good ideas too).
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    It's not that all unusual of a rule.  Most of the upper scale YCs I've been too have this rule for the Dining Rooms and sometimes even the bar area.

    I'm sure there will be notificatuion of the rule already at the CC, but yes, YOU (your FILs) are expected to control your guests behavior. 

    I would have it listed on your website and word of mouth,
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    I put "other", and think you should approach it in several methods. 

    Put it on your wedding website, word of mouth, and if you have a separate insert in the invitations for the reception, put it on there as well. 

    Or I've seen some weddings where reception information was announced at the end of the ceremony, was put in the ceremony program, or they gave out handouts/maps as guests exited the ceremony location.  That might be an option.

    And hopefully the country club will have their policy posted somewhere, or can discretely inform guests of the posted policies if needed.  As pervasive as cell phone usage is, surely they run into this on a regular basis.
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