Invitation Wording

meagan.carey

Hello!

ANY ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS/IDEAS ARE GREATLY APPRECAITED!

 I'm trying to figure out the wording for my invitations. I have the Emily Post books, and have searched high and low and cannot find any advice on my situation so hopefully someone out there will have some suggestions.

My fiancé’s parents are divorced, his father is still single and his mother is remarried.  My parents are still married.

However, my fiancé’s parents (both sets) and I am paying for the wedding.

At this point my parents haven't contributed any $$, but I want them to feel included in the day and I would like to include them on the invitation, but I don’t want to offend his parents.

I would happily let them take “credit” (I can’t think of any other word to use) for the money I’m contributing, but again I don’t want his parents to feel under appreciated.   

With that being said, here are my questions:

Would it be considered improper to include my parents if his parents are giving more money?

Is using “together with their parents” improper?

Is using “together with their families” improper?

Has anyone had a similar situation? 

 

Thank you in advance for your help on this, I really appreciate all feedback!!

 

kara811

We're including both of our parents on our invitations, whether they are contributing or not. Raising your and your FI alone is already a big contribution and honor from your parents. Put your parents on there too. "Together with their parents" isn't improper either. 

Celles

"Together with their families" and "together with their parents" are both fine -- and probably the best possible solution for this.

squirrly

It is completely permissible to include both sets of parents on the invite regardless of who is contributing money.  (Afterall, the did contribute YOU, and they might very well be contributing moral support, which is pretty valuable too.)  The decision you need to make is if you want it to appear that the parents (all) are hosting or that you and your FI are hosting.  I'm guessing you want the parents to appear to be hosting.  Here's the wording for that:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride Dad Last
Mr. and Mrs. Groom Stepdad Last
Mr. Groom Dad Last
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children

Miss Bride Middle Last
to
Mr. Groom Middle Last

Saturday, the eighth of May
two thousand ten
at half after five o'clock in the afternoon

Venue Name
Address
City, State

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If you want to do Together with their families/parents, it looks like this:

Together with their parents/families

Miss Bride Middle Last
and
Mr. Groom Middle Last

request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage/wedding

Saturday, the eighth of May
two thousand ten
at half after five o'clock in the afternoon

Venue Name
Address
City, State

meagan.carey

Thank you everyone!!! I really appreciate the advice!