shower issue

april20064

I live across the country from where I went to high school and college and since our guest list is so small, only two of my friends (who still live there) are invited to the wedding.  They are bridesmaids and would like to throw me a shower where they live and invite our high school friends, who are not invited to the wedding.  I've told them that this is improper, but they insist.  What do I do?  Just tell them I don't want a shower in that case?  I'm stuck because people are going to get their feelings hurt no matter what I do.

danieliza1127

I would stick to your guns and decline the shower. 

 

MeaghanandMichael

I would decline the shower. You can always visit and catch up with these friends when you are in town and if they realllly feel the need to give you a gift, they will. That is really the worst case senario of not having a shower. I would think your bms would understand you not wanting to look gift grabby or rude.

april20064

Ok, but how far do I take it?  They are pretty insistant and I can't really afford to alienate my two attendants!

I'm having the same issue here as well, for whatever that's worth.  One friend who's probably going to be invited but isn't 100% yet wants to do the same thing.  Sorry I don't have enough friends for a party, but they don't need to rub it in by making me spell it out for them.