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NWR: Please Help With Name Etiquette

Hello,

We are placing an announcement in my hometown paper to celebrate my (very belated) college graduation. My mother and father divorced when I was young, and my mother is remarried. My mother also wants everyone to recognize her name in the article (we are from a small town). Normally, I would write "daughter of Mrs. Sally Jones née Smith. However, my mother wants it to be clear that she was married to my father at the time of my birth (I realize this is nobody's business but where we're from, it's actually a point of pride...sadly). Should it be written Mrs. Sally (Thomas) Jones née Smith? Mrs. Sally (Smith) Jones née Thomas? Or is there just no way to meet all of her stipulations without appearing silly and I should tell her to let it go? TIA!

Re: NWR: Please Help With Name Etiquette

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    [QUOTE]Hello, We are placing an announcement in my hometown paper to celebrate my (very belated) college graduation. My mother and father divorced when I was young, and my mother is remarried. My mother also wants everyone to recognize her name in the article (we are from a small town). Normally, I would write "daughter of Mrs. Sally Jones née Smith. However, my mother wants it to be clear that she was married to my father at the time of my birth (I realize this is nobody's business but where we're from, it's actually a point of pride...sadly). Should it be written Mrs. Sally (Thomas) Jones née Smith? Mrs. Sally (Smith) Jones née Thomas? <strong>Or is there just no way to meet all of her stipulations without appearing silly and I should tell her to let it go? TIA!</strong>
    Posted by Lyons_hearted[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>The bolded part is right.  The article is honoring your graduation, not your mom.

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  • This is all way too complicated.  Tell your mom (nicely and with love) to take a powder and calm down :)  Most people probably wouldn't even realize what was going on with all the parantheses and nees.  I can't do that cool accent thing over the e.
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    [QUOTE]This is all way too complicated.  Tell your mom (nicely and with love) to take a powder and calm down :)  Most people probably wouldn't even realize what was going on with all the parantheses and nees.  I can't do that cool accent thing over the e.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    On a PC hold down ALT and type 130 on your keypad.

    And ditto your mom is being difficult, OP. She has a different last name than you now. It is what it is.
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  • Nee means "born" so the name after nee would be have to be her birth name. It does seem complicated to add in her former name too, but I guess you could do it with the parens if she insists.
  • Agree with PP....this is WAY to confusing. There are too many names. This is about you, not her. Just list her name as it is today and be done with it. The "nee" is used before her maiden name only, not her former married name. If she's really concerned, put something like Mrs. Sally Smith (formerly Mrs. Sally Thomas) or something like that. Personally, I wouldn't worry about it.
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    I'd just use her current name (don't mention her divorced name).  The people who know you and/or her probably know that she was married when she had you.  Strangers are probably not going to ponder over the announcement, but most people in this modern world, know that many women divorce and remarry or don't change their last name or whatever, and don't judge that she has a different last name from you and your father.
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