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Sticky situation

I have a guy who is an acquaintance, but in my small circle of friends.  Typically, I'd want to invite this circle of friends to any big event I have.  They are almost all invited to my wedding.  Almost.

I just can't invite this guy (we'll call him Mike).


When I started dating FI, Mike got very upset.  He finally blurted out one day that he was jealous... that he'd been hoping something would happen between us and was surprised that I hadn't realized that.

Here's the thing, though.  Mike is really wanting to find a wife.  He's been going from girl to girl hoping to find that connection.  I know that he doesn't really have feelings for me.  He's still trying to find "the one".

But, from the very first moment that FI met him, he didn't like him.  He said that Mike is interested in me and he doesn't really like him. 

Anyway, like I said, I'm not really friends with him, so he's not on our guest list.

My only concern is that the others in my small circle ARE on my guest list.  I've known them longer and we have closer connections.  I'm just worried that Mike will be upset to be left off and I'm not sure how to respond to him if he asks why he wasn't invited.

WWYD?
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Re: Sticky situation

  • Personally, if he asked, I would say that you were sparing his feelings because of the one time he blurted out he was jelouse.  If you were jelouse of a guy, it would almost be like rubbing it in your face if you had to attend his wedding. I think the roles could be reversed here. 

    Tell Mike you were sorry, and you were only thinking about his feelings.
  • PP has the perfect answer! I had a similar situation except when the engagement was announced he sent a nasty message on FB saying "don't you think you have been engaged enough" Um I was engaged ONCE before I met him years ago and he cheated on ME....he is just upset he doesn't get dates off the web and me and him won't work out....I told him flat out..that just proved I don't need to invite you and he never replied.

    People who do those types of things are just going to cause drama to some degree.
    Nichole Tampa, FL BabyFetus Ticker
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