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Co-workers plus one?

I work on a small team within a large company and plan on inviting my co-workers to my wedding.  A couple questions -
1.  3 are married, 2 I have met the husbands and one I have not, but I don't have a friendship with the husbands at all.  Do I need to invite the husbands?  There will probably be enough work people invited that they would have their own table at the reception,so it's not like they wouldn't know anyone else.  Am I required to invite the husbands?  We are trying to keep things as small as possible, so I'd prefer not to.

2.  A couple of my teammates are single. Do I need to give them plus ones?  They are not dating anyone exclusively and I really don't want to have to pay for dinner and open bar for some random people I've never met and maybe they've only dated once or twice.

Thanks!

Re: Co-workers plus one?

  • If anyone is in a relationship, you must invite their significant other.

    If they aren't dating and they know someone at the wedding, you don't need to give them a plus one.

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  • You MUST invite partners. If someone is married/in a relationship, you need to invite the partner, as they are a social unit. Wouldn't you be bummed if you were invited to a wedding and your FI was not?

    As for plus-ones for truly single co-workers, it's totally up to you. But keep in mind that if they begin exclusively dating someone between now and your wedding, they will need to be able to bring that person.
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  • Yup, as previous posters stated, you need to invite their husbands (or significant others).  It's rude to split up social units; just because they know people doesn't mean its ok.
  • Ditto PPs -- truly single people don't need a +1, but you should invite the husbands. The husbands might decline and the coworkers may just decide to come together, but you really need to invite any SOs of your guests.

    FWIW, I had this same hesitation inviting a coworker's SO, I'd never met the guy before but I did invite him so as to not be rude. He decided to come on his own with a single coworker that I also invited.
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  • I hear it's really rude to not include people's SO's and spouses. I have some perpetually single coworkers, but I'm going to allow for +1's in case they want to bring a friend. If it's in your budget, the offer would probably be appreciated even if they don't take you up on it.
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  • If they are married or in a serious relationship when you send out invites, you must invite them. I've heard different definitions as to what is serious, some say 6 months, some say one year.
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