Morning ladies!
I have 6 girls in my bridal party (1 MOH, 5 BMs). Up until now, there has been zero drama with them. Zilch, none. They've all been super supportive, great sounding boards, totally there for me and super flexible (some things about the wedding got changed, and they've just rolled with it).
As of this week, however, I've noticed a lot of tension and potential sources of drama, and I'm wondering if I should say anything. I'd love some advice!
Situtation #1: hotel the night before and night of the wedding. I sent out an email letting everyone in the wedding know about the hotel arrangments (price, location, etc). They don't have to stay at the hotel we booked, whoever doesn't stay that wants their hair and makeup done just needs to be at the hotel to get done at 9am. If they don't want anything done, I asked them to be there by 11am (two girls in my party run horribly late, so I made the time 30 minutes early to make sure they are there by 11:30am). Instant grumbling about "an early morning" and :too much work". It's a 2pm wedding, they know we're getting all pics done before the ceremony, and it's a 25 minute drive to the site. I need buffer time. Do I just tell them to deal? I need them in the photos, and I really didn't think that 11am-11:30am was all that early. Am I crazy?
Situation #2: my shower. My MOH had asked me for dates that worked for me and FI, and I gave them to her before Christmas. I can have to work a weekend at a moment's notice, everyone knows about my job. I just asked my MOH to let me know the date and time so I can tell my boss I can't be available on a certain date, so he can arrange for back up. She gave me the date that worked best for everyone, and all other details are a suprise. I get a text last night from a BM saying that it's been scheduled on another date than the one my MOH gave me. I texted her to confirm, and my MOH to double check. My MOH was super angry when she called (not at me) because the date that my BM texted was actually for my bacherlorette party, and she basically ruined the suprise. Do I say anything? My MOH is non confrontational by nature, and would never say anything to me or to any of the other BMs. What should I do? This BM has been end running my MOH on other details, and I'm sensing a drama fest on the horizon. Is this something I should address?
Situation #3: made up crap. I literally told my bridal party "pick a black dress, silver shoes, and please be on time. That's all I ask." They've all got their dresses, some are deciding on shoes, but I've been pretty easy going about what I asked them to wear. I told them I don't care if their hair is up, down, blue, brown, pink, shaved off, etc. I don't care about nail color, pedicure color, etc. I've got 3 girls coming from out of town, so I can't get a time nailed down to do a group mani/pedi session. They can do whatever they'd like. I thought they all understood this....until I was on facebook last night and saw 3 of them posting that they "have to grow out their hair" cause I told them I want their hair up, or that they need gel tips for a french manicure because I told them that's what I wanted, or that I want them to get spray tanned. Nothing could be further from the truth, so I was a little peeved (ok, I yelled at the computer screen). Do I call BS on them? Or do I let it go?
I was really upset mostly because I thought I was easy going, and I don't like getting made out to be a potential bridezilla when I went out of my way to be low key. Thoughts? Advice? I'm 3 months away and I really thought this was fairly smooth sailing with these girls.