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HELP!!!! Inviting family and children to the wedding

I have several family members (anut, several 1st cousons, and a sister) I have not spoken to in several years. Would it be rude to not invite them to my wedding and reception. My reception hall only holds about 50 to 60 people.

2nd question. Is it ok to only invite the children thats in the wedding party to the reception. There are several children thats in my wedding party that have other siblings. One parent said that it would be rude to invite one but not the rest of her children. Not sure what to do. If I invited all the children there would be around 25. HELP

Re: HELP!!!! Inviting family and children to the wedding

  • LDYGTR13LDYGTR13 member
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    edited April 2011
    Help! I need somebody. HELP! not just anybody. HELP! You know I need someone. HEEEEEEELP.

    sorry, I saw the title and it came to mind. I hope someone HELPS!!!!

    ETA: Good luck!
  • LDY, you've taken a leaf out of Fishy's book and you are USELESS.
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    [QUOTE]LDY, you've taken a leaf out of Fishy's book and you are USELESS.
    Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

    I guess I miss her since she's out enjoying her burfday and all. I'm channeling my inner fishy today.

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  • LDYGTR13LDYGTR13 member
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    edited April 2011
  • 1)   If you do not want to invite them, don't.  But that does not mean there will not be any fall out from your choice.  Only you know your family dynamics to know if it's "okay" or not

    2)  This is a little more tricker.  Yes I believe you can pick and choose what kids you want to invite as long as you have a clear line drawn (ie:  WP members and no one else).   That said, I also think it's wrong to split the line between siblings.    Personally I would  not have kids in the WP to start with to avoid the whole situation.  But it seems that ship has pasted.






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    [QUOTE] One parent said that it would be rude to invite one but not the rest of her children. Posted by overloaded[/QUOTE]

    This is true!
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    [QUOTE]Way to use that quote button Matty! ETA: and then a DD? Man, I was excited.
    Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

    Sorry! I clicked too soon, haha
  • You HAVE to invite the kids in your wedding party to the reception. I would personally invite their siblings as well.
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    [QUOTE]1)   If you do not want to invite them, don't.  But that does not mean there will not be any fall out from your choice.  Only you know your family dynamics to know if it's "okay" or not 2)  This is a little more <strong>tricker.</strong>  Yes I believe you can pick and choose what kids you want to invite as long as you have a clear line drawn (ie:  WP members and no one else).   That said, I also think it's wrong to split the line between siblings.    Personally I would  not have kids in the WP to start with to avoid the whole situation.  But it seems that ship has <strong>pasted</strong>.
    Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

    <div>I hope the bolded words are typos, but it does not appear so.  The ship has pasted?  Maybe it sailed?  Maybe that opportunity has passed?  I don't think it learned how to use glue.  Sorry... I read the thread about some of you being bitchy today and I guess it rubbed off!</div><div>
    </div><div>OP - I think it would be rude to invite one sibling, but not another!</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: HELP!!!! Inviting family and children to the wedding : I hope the bolded words are typos, but it does not appear so.  The ship has pasted?  Maybe it sailed?  Maybe that opportunity has passed?  I don't think it learned how to use glue.  Sorry... I read the thread about some of you being bitchy today and I guess it rubbed off! OP - I think it would be rude to invite one sibling, but not another!
    Posted by lizziec08[/QUOTE]

    Well aren't you a peach.
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  • Oh dang.  I forgot I don't have 2000 posts, so I am not allowed to say anything snarky!  I mean you have to admit that the pasted thing is pretty bad grammar... 
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    [QUOTE]Oh dang.  I forgot I don't have 2000 posts, so I am not allowed to say anything snarky!  I mean you have to admit that the pasted thing is pretty bad grammar... 
    Posted by lizziec08[/QUOTE]

    It's an honest typo. Big fucking deal. You aren't being snarky (*vom*) at all, btw. You're just stirring shiit. Not really a good way to make a good first impression on a board.
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