Who pays for what?

savomccormick

Am I supposed to pay for the bridesmaids dresses or are they expected to buy them themselves? What about flower girl dresses--does that fall to the parents of the kids? And groomsmen tuxedos/suits? 

CallaLily25

Typically, the bridesmaids are responsible for purchasing their dresses, as are the groomsmen for renting their tuxes. Flower girl dresses are the responsibility of the parents. Be sure to ask your wedding party their budgets (and the flower girl's parents).

StephJean83

Usually the BMs, GMs and parents of FG/RB will pay for their attire. If it is in your budget, you can always pay for the attire. If you opt to have them pay for their own attire, privately ask each person their budget than select a dress/suit/tux within the lowest budget given or give them a designer, color and length.

mlg78

Groomsmen pay for their own tuxes/suits.  Bridesmaids pay for dresses but if you dictate a specific piece of jewelry or shoes, you pick up that bill.  I'm not having a flower girl/ring bearer so I'm not positive on the answer for that one.

And as always, ask your WP for budgets before selecting something since what you choose needs to fall below the lowest amount given.

Kristin789

>>Am I supposed to pay for the bridesmaids dresses or are they expected to buy them themselves?

THEY pay.  It's part of the price of standing up for your friend and accepting the responsibility of being a marriage mentor for them.

>>What about flower girl dresses--does that fall to the parents of the kids?

YES.

>>And groomsmen tuxedos/suits?

THEY pay.

lovesclimbing

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[QUOTE]Am I supposed to pay for the bridesmaids dresses or are they expected to buy them themselves? What about flower girl dresses--does that fall to the parents of the kids? And groomsmen tuxedos/suits? 
Posted by savomccormick[/QUOTE]

<div>At our wedding, I purchased the material for and my mom made the BMs dresses, the FG dress, the RB tie, the GM ties and we purchased the GMs shirts.  The GMs supplied their own pants and the RB's parents supplied his pants and shirt.</div><div>
</div><div>It all depends on what you want to do.  It's fine to ask them to pay for their own is the general consensus.</div>

j-harvey

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[QUOTE] />>Am I supposed to pay for the bridesmaids dresses or are they expected to buy them themselves? THEY pay.  It's part of the price of standing up for your friend and accepting the responsibility of being a marriage mentor for them. >>What about flower girl dresses--does that fall to the parents of the kids? YES. >>And groomsmen tuxedos/suits? THEY pay.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

This (along with privately checking the budget.) But it could solve problems if you had the extra budget to pay for an attendant or two who may have problems paying at the last minute.

McRogol

We weren't sure about suits either, given how much more expensive they can be than a BM dress.  We decided to ask our brothers (my 2 are standing up with me and FI's 2 are standing with him) if they had suits in certain colors that we were ok with and chose the color they all have in common.  We'll be asking them to purchase a certain shirt  to wear and are buying the ties and pocket sqaures for them.