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How Do We Handle This?

We are getting married this weekend.  My FI's best friend just announced that he is bringing his 3 year old son with him this weekend so that FI can "spend some quality time with him".  We are not having children at the wedding and he expects my FI to spend time this weekend hanging out with his child.  I think this is horribly rude and selfish as this is hardly an appropriate time for this.  We are going to be so busy with in town family I'm speechless.  Now he tells us he isn't sure if he can make it to the rehearsal because he has his son with them.  Then he is staying in a hotel 40 minutes out of the city and insists that FI drive to his room after the rehearsal dinner to spend time with his son.  Am I the only one who thinks this is insane?  What are we supposed to do with this? 

Re: How Do We Handle This?

  • WTF? "I'm sorry friend, but we are totally booked solid all day Friday and Saturday. I don't think I'll have any time to hang out with little Johnny. But lets schedule something soon where we can all hang out!" Or something. Obviously this guy has never been marrie.d
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  • JHS16JHS16 member
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    I'm confused, why would your FI want to spend time with his friend's kid?  
  • bmd14bmd14 member
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    He is married that's the kicker!! Its like he has lost his mind!  And the reason he can't come to the rehearsal is that they are taking their son to Legoland on Friday instead!  WTF? 
  • All you can do is politely decline to drive out to spend time with the kid, and remind the guy that there are no kids at the wedding.  Other than that, you just live and let live.  My MOH is bringing her 10-month-old up for the wedding, even though her ILs offered to babysit for the weekend.  Annoying, but I'm not going to let it ruin my wedding.
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  • Why does your FI need to spend quality time with his best friend's kid?  Maybe I just don't get it, but that seems kinda strange to me...
  • Geez, is your FI the father of the child or something? 

    Your FI needs to tell him that it will be a very busy weekend and he won't have time, but he'd love to get together on some other occasion.
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  • Try to be forgiving- a lot of parents of toddlers think their kids are more interesting than they actually are.
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  • JHS16JHS16 member
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    Perhaps you can offer the recommendation of a local babysitter for the day of the wedding? 
  • bmd14bmd14 member
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    People floor me....
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_handle-this-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b138d208-3c8d-4865-a4a8-2339604a73eePost:5c5f9339-a5fd-43b8-b0db-700c55188e47">Re: How Do We Handle This?</a>:
    [QUOTE]WTF? "I'm sorry friend, but we are totally booked solid all day Friday and Saturday. I don't think I'll have any time to hang out with little Johnny. But lets schedule something soon where we can all hang out!" Or something. Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

    This. Exactly.
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