One of my bridesmaids works with me. She is actually a level below me, but we work very well together so it is not a problem. The wedding invitation that was sent to her was to her and her boyfriend. Well I guess he broke up with her. She has also been sick the past few weeks, so I did not exactly want be any sort of additional cause of stress. She asked if she could bring this other co-worker (call him A) that we work with as her date instead. I said sure. A is also at her level and I have a great working relationship with him. I did not invite A because if I did I felt obligated to invite the other 3 people at his level. One of which I really did not want to invite.
So A cannot make it. I heard from another co-worker that she then intended to invite the guy I really did not want to invite, call him R. R is also at her level. I do not have a good working relationship with him. In fact, this all may be solved when he reads my review of his performance and does not want to come. R also has a habit of needing to be the center of attention. In that, at other friends weddings he has choreographed and performed a dance for them (he is not that good of a dancer). As I said, I specifically did not invite a couple other people I work with, so I would not feel obligated to invite this guy. My FI met him once and also was not a fan. Since she is a bridesmaid, he would essentially be around the whole weekend, so Welcome party, rehearsal dinner, wedding.
Can I tell her he is off limits? I originally named her boyfriend on the invitation and agreed to this specific other person. So am I stuck then with whoever she wants to invite? I don't really want my intimate rehearsal dinner to include a guy I barely want to deal with at work.