"You're Invited, But Not Your Sister?"

MrsG2B83

This ties in with my post about limiting my guest list. I have a lot of relatives in Indiana. They're my mom's cousins. They are the sweetest, nicest people and whenever I say them for family reunions, they were so welcoming. One of them even flew out from Germany for my mom's funeral.

Problem? There are a TON on them. They're a big close knit family. I can only actually name a handful and I only have the addresses of two of them.

Do I try to figure out the names/addresses of all of them and invite them all, just invite the ones I know or just stick to the ones I'm really close to?

Aedes18

If it were me, I would invite the people I am closest to. I am having to do this with my cousins. It sucks big time, but in my case it has to be done. However there are probably people who will say that once you dip into a social circle you need to invite everyone in that circle. But personally not inviting my close cousins because I can't invite all my cousins felt wrong. Good luck, these sorts of decisions are always hard.

Beachy730

If the only reason you are not inviting them is because you don't have addresses, then I would just ask the ones whose contact info you do have for addresses of the others.  Or see if you have an aunt or grandparent that might have them.  As for names, there were people at my wedding I couldn't name.  They were my dads good friends and hunting buddies that he has hunting and fishing with every year since before I was born.  I knew all of their names and had heard them many times, but was clueless as to which guy belonged to which name.  We just made my dad go with us when we went to their table. 

These people sound like they would love to be invited to and attend your wedding.  So if it only that issue, then I  think you should find their info and invite them.  You didn't mention any other reasoning for not inviting them, but if it is due to budget or space limitations then you can invite who you want. 

alyssalowe

We invited tiers of family, all aunts not just fave ones. I figure the ones that are not that close to us will either decline the invite or maybe it will help us get closer. We allowed room for everyone and have a "b" list of friends that are distant that will get invites if anyone declines.

MrsG2B83

Okay, I should have elaborated. Our venue is small and so is our budget so we have to limit who we invite (my FI doesn't quite get that ).

In the frenzy of "I'M GETTING MARRIED!", I sent an email to one of my Indiana cousins, asking her for addresses of the family members. The granted, the list is HUGE, but I only know 12 of them. I'm knda sure that if I invited everyone else on the list, they'd be like "who IS this?!"

I can handle 12.
 

Mrs.B6302007

If they aren't going to know you at a family reunion, they don't need an invite.

Catwoman708

How likely is it that all the OOT relatives you invite will actually attend?  If you have room in your venue and budget just in case more attend than you expect, then invite them all. 

If you only have a few available spots, then invite only those you are close to.

But don't exclude them just because you don't have addresses.  You FIND the addresses if you want to invite them. 

red1115

Find the addresses of those you want to invite.

Send Announcements (after the wedding) to any others.