A thank you note question. I KNOW I've seen this question before, but can't find it, nor remember the answer.
My wedding is in October. My shower is August 1. I just got an invitation to my shower (they're very pretty and classy). I also just today got an email from Macy's, where I'm registered, saying that so and so bought me (specific gift), but it's on backorder and is scheduled to ship by August 6.
I know that for gifts received pre-wedding, pre-shower, I should send a thank you to make sure the person knows I received it, and set it aside until after the wedding.
I don't really know what to do here. I assume she won't be making it to the shower - she lives in TX, shower is in PA - and another twist, I don't think she was INVITED to the shower, I think she's sending a gift based on the STD, and likely won't make it to the wedding.
I could send a thank you after the shower with all of the other thank yous, considering that the gift is supposed to arrive just after the shower, but again, I don't think she was invited to the shower, so that might not make sense.
If I send a thank you now and she's aware that I won't have the item for a couple of months, I could look like a weirdo registry stalker.
If I don't send a thank you soon and she isn't aware that the item is backordered, I could look like a total d-bag.
So... when do you send a thank you for an item from someone who wasn't invited to the shower, probably won't be at the wedding, that you were alerted to by a surprise ruining Macy's email to tell you the gift isn't actually coming for a while?
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