Ok, so I have an issue that is NOT AT ALL a bad thing, I just don't know what to do. I know I have a good thing here and that there are starving brides in Africa who would kill to have such a minor issue.
Anyway, Buddy and I planned on having our DJ also do the ceremony & cocktail hour music for a couple of reasons. One, our ceremony isn't in a church, so we can use secular music, and we really liked the idea of choosing contemporary songs for seating music, walking down the aisle music, recessional, etc. Secondly because the music that WE really like isn't well suited to dancing at the reception, so we'd like to hear "our" music during cocktails and dinner and then standard dancing music after dinner.
On Christmas, when Buddy was on the phone with his family, his uncle - an EXTREMELY talented musician - offered to play classical guitar for us in some capacity for the wedding. Buddy said oh, how generous, etc. and we didn't really think anything more of it for a couple of reasons, one being that we didn't think he was totally serious for some reason.
A couple of days ago, Buddy was on the phone with his aunt who mentioned that his uncle was waiting to hear from us so that he could learn music if we did want him to play.
So, here are my issues:
1. I feel really strange asking a guest to perform or "work" at my wedding.
2. I would miss having the music that we had already picked out for the ceremony, though nothing was really set in stone.
3. We could ask him to play while guests are being seated and then switch to a DJ or vice versa, but I feel like it would be insulting (and whether it truly WOULD be or not, I can't shake the feeling) to ask such a talented musician to step aside for the DJ.
4. We could have him play during the cocktail hour, but that makes me feel guilty, because he's a guest and should get to enjoy the cocktail hour and I KNOW he offered to play, but still. Also, there's the whole thing where the DJ would do the wedding, which we'd pay extra for, but not the cocktail hour, which was already included in the DJ's price, and oh yeah, telling Buddy's uncle that we prefer a DJ for our ceremony ("important" part) but he can play for cocktails - that insulting thing again.
I would really like it for him to play the ceremony music, and I know it's silly, but I would have to convince myself it wasn't a big deal to let go of the idea of all the different recorded songs I've chosen since we got engaged.
And a secondary issue: I don't even know where to begin with choosing songs for a classical guitarist playing wedding music, so ideas would be welcome there as well.
You have now reached the end of this novel.
On bed rest since Groundhog's Day and every day since has been exactly the same.
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