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Reception venue

I am very new to this forum but I wanted other brides opinion. My fiancé and I are looking for reception venues and the place where his sister had her wedding reception still sticks to our minds..we loved it! Do you think it's appropriate to have our reception at the same venue? We can do many of the details differently but I don't want anyone to think that we are copying her wedding, let me know what you think.......

Re: Reception venue

  • I don't see a problem with it at all.


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  • My fiance and I are having our wedding/reception in the same venue his best friend and friend's wife were married. They were the ones that suggested it to us. It's perfectly fine if you have yours there.
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  • I suggest that you ask them
  • Some people are really ticky about this - while it SHOULD be fine and they should be grown ups about it...many crazy brides have come through these boards saying "MY BROTHER'S FIANCE WANTS TO HAVE HER WEDDING AT MY VENUE!!!"

    Of course, we tell them they're insane and need to chill out, but, at the very least, I think it shows you respect them enough to ask. Might give you some bonus points actually. 

    So...to answer your questions, etiquette wise, yes, it's totally cool. However, this is family and it's best not to ruffle feathers if you can help it.
  • I agree with PPs.  Etiquette wise you're good.  But you never know how Fi's sister will react.  

    My personal opinion is that if it's a typical wedding venue in your area that you should go for it and let them just deal (because it shouldn't be a shock that someone else is using the venue). But if they came up a truly uncommon venue that you really ought to try to find your own space just to keep the peace. 
  • My cousins both had their receptions at the same place (siblings). It's fine IMO.
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  • I think that ettiquette wise, it is alright. However, you should definitely ask his sister what she thinks. Some people do not like this at all. 
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  • I agree on the asking the sister just in case if she thinks she owns it.

    I have the same band as my fiance's cousin did, i never asked if it was ok, to me they should be honored that i liked them enough to book them myself, 1/2 my guest list will be the same but 1/2 wont be. We will have different set lists so it will still be different.

    If you are in a smaller area you are going to share something with someone, if you are in a big city that is a bit different.
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  • I'm getting married at a country club where I and my family have been to countless weddings. It won't look the same, even if at the same location, so I wouldn't worry about it unless you think it will cause unnecessary drama.
  • We're having our reception at the same venue our friends are, two weeks after them. FI is a groomsman in their wedding and I'm the photographer. They booked it first, but it's a small town and it was one of the only venus that would fit my guest list so we really didn't have a choice. Our weddings will be very different and with a different guest list.

    I say have your wedding wherever and whenever you want.
  • roxiems75roxiems75 member
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    edited January 2012
    You can just bring it up in conversation and say something like this:  We really loved your venue for your wedding FI and I are thinking about putting this venue on our list to visit to see if it fits our needs.  See what the reaction is and go from there. 
  • Cortney1982Cortney1982 member
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    edited January 2012
    I'd say your fine as long as you don't copy the details, or try to totally out do what they had.
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