Bridal Shower

lilpocahontas98

hi - i am getting married in 06/2013; and wondering what is the proper etiquette when having it at a restaurant?  is it wrong to have each guest pay for their own meal?

melb2013

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[QUOTE]hi - i am getting married in 06/2013; and wondering what is the proper etiquette when having it at a restaurant? <strong> is it wrong to have each guest pay for their own meal?</strong>
Posted by lilpocahontas98[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes.  Any party that you or someone else hosts, must be paid for by the host, not by the guest.</div>

SmallenForever

A. You can't throw your own bridal shower. B. The hosts (which is someone other than you who offers) pay for everything for everyone. 

kmmssg

Agree - guests never ever pay for their meals or drinks.  if a restaurant is too expensive, it should be hosted at someone's home.

Is someone planning your shower and expecting the guests to pay?  If so, you should definitely decline the shower.

NYCMercedes

Your subject line says Bridal Shower but your question seems to be addressing your wedding reception. Wedding reception; you invite and you pay for all. Bridal shower in honor of the bride: another person invites and that person pays for all.

Cortney1982

Having each guests pay for their own meal at your bridal shower is ridiculous.   If whoever is hosting cannot afford to feed everybody at a restaurant, perhaps this would be better done at somebody's home with sandwhiches or pizza.

jenajjthr

I got invited to a friends graduation party at a local Dave and Buster's.  I wondered how she was planning on paying for a party there, but realized it was none of my business and went and celebrated her getting her Master's.  After we order a waitress comes by asking how the checks will be split.  Her mom, sitting right next to us, says I'm covering X, Y, and Z's.  Aunt is covering A, B, and C's.  They (meaning us) are paying their own.  I was shocked, but didn't say anything. 

When you invite people to ANYTHING it is up to the host/ess to pay for that.  Thank goodness I had just been paid, but I shouldn't have had to pull out my wallet at all.  Please host your wedding properly.  If this is your bridal shower, please tell the host to host it properly.

thurmanpowell

Yes, it is super duper wrong. Restaurant or anywhere else.

You don't even need a meal for a shower, if money is an issue order hors dourves from your favorite resturant, have it at someone house/community room, and have it in the afternoon.

Summer2011Bride

If you're talking about the shower, someone else hosts that for you (if they offer) and they pay for the food.

If you're talking about your wedding, you host and you pay.

sparkles776

Our friends invited us to their brunch they hosted the day after their wedding, we thought it was such a nice gesture and were shocked when we got a bill for it. It is not ok to invite people to wedding related events and not cover the bill. It is not ok to host your own shower.