Best way to address invite for unusual family situation?

AllisaurusRex

This particular invite is for my mother, her boyfriend, my minor brother (will be 15 at time of wedding), and the boyfriend's minor son (will be 17). They all live together as a family unit. BTW, my mother is widowed if that makes any difference. I would like to list all 4 names on the invite but am unsure of how. Do I put "Mr." before the boys' names even though they are minors? And what order do I list the names in? I know typically the man's name goes first when addressing a couple, but what about the kids? Arranged by age, last name, etc? Or should I only list mom and boyfriend and include something on the inside of the envelope or let them know in person that I want the boys there? This is what I am thinking:

Mr. Mom's Boyfriend
Mrs. Mom
Mr. Boyfriend's Son
Mr. Brother
Address
City, State, Zip

Any suggestions or advice? TIA!

Beachy730

I would put your mother first, since she is the MOB.  Also, if they aren't adults, their names don't need to be on the outer envelope, as long as you have inner envelopes.

baystateapple

Maybe just put Mr. Mom's Boyfriend, Mrs. Mom, and family?  Then specify that the RSVP is for four people on the card.  That will be shorter, and they'll get the idea.

Ghoti

http://www.calligraphylady.com/addresslists.htm

Mrs Mom 

Mr Boyfriend

Brother first name  and Son first name

Address 

City State Zip

ET- can't read my own link, apparently. 

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]<a href="http://www.calligraphylady.com/addresslists.htm" rel='nofollow'>http://www.calligraphylady.com/addresslists.htm</a> Mrs Mom and Mr Boyfriend Brother first name  and Son first name Address  City State Zip
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>If they aren't married they are supposed to be on 2 separate lines, with no "and."</div>

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]Will you have inner envelopes?  If so you could put Mr. Mom's Boyfriend Ms. Mom on the outer envelope and then Mr. Boyfriend Ms. Mom Son First& Lastname and Son First&Lastname on the inner envelope.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>I would more than likely just give the minor kids their own invites.  You do not have to, but most people have a few extra anyway.</div>

achiduck

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[QUOTE]I would put your mother first, since she is the MOB.  Also, if they aren't adults, their names don't need to be on the outer envelope, as long as you have inner envelopes.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

This.

AllisaurusRex

Thanks ladies, I had never hear that MOB's name should be first so I'm glad someone told me! Another question, should the Mother of the Groom be listed first as well? She is divorced, lives with her boyfriend also.

Beachy730

You don't have to put them first , but I definitely would if they aren't married.  I think I would find it weird if I was the mother and my invite was addressed to my BF.

steffenfam

I think you are over-thinking this.  It's your mom.  I would put:
Ms. Mom O'Bride
Mr. Mom Boyfriend
Johnny (brother 1st) and Scotty (boyfriend's son 2nd)

mctlong

Not such an unsual family.