Someone was telling me about a shower and wedding they were invited to...
shower: apparently the invite said cocktail and app party (but apparently the cocktails are not being hosted) and the bride and groom would prefer cash since they have everything they need!
wedding: not listed anywhere on the invite, but apparently the guest found out that it is an invite to an AHR...but before the wedding! Yup they are having the AHR before hand to get $$$ to pay for their destination wedding!