sigh

mica178

My FI wanted to buy a gift for his coworker, and this is what he found on her website:

No longer registered, monetary(cash) gift perfered

!!!!!

He just started the job a couple months ago, but I originally thought it'd be nice for him to send her a small gift.  After seeing the above note on her registry page, I'm reconsidering the gesture.  Thoughts? 

baystateapple

Send a card.  No cash, no gift.

LesPaul

I think a nice greeting card is in order.

waltzingmatilda13

I wouldn't give a gift. But that's just me.

ETA: Meant to say wouldn't.

angie74

that's just plain tacky. a card it is.

kikibaby

She could have at least spelled 'preferred' correctly.

MissLeahM

You should get them an ugly lamp. And a card. An ugly card.

alixzafiris

They spell good these people, yeah? *shakes head*

MissLeahM

You should get them an ugly lamp. And a card. An ugly card.

sarah0725

Oh, goodness.

ZRex

What is wrong with people?

akhensley81

How about a book?

georgia_bride09

I would send her a card and Emily Post's book with the "Registeries" section tabbed.

danieliza1127

If he's only worked there a couple months, I wouldn't give her anything.  If all of the co-workers aren't going in on a group gift, then he shouldn't feel obligated to do anything, even a card.

ETA: That's assuming that he's not invited to the wedding.  It didn't sound like he was based on your post.

Sing2phins

And why did she put "(cash)" after monetary?  Does she think people don't know what monetary means?  Or is she really asking for cash, meaning she doesn't want checks?

In any event, NO.

FutureMrsTR

I'd get them a card and then find something I was going to give to Goodwill and send that to them.

smore154

LOL spelling for dummies that is hilarious!!! Who does that! That's so mean. Although I don't know what's worse. My cousin who lived with her FI for 9 years registering for cheap dishtowels, or this note. I think they're both pretty bad. 99 cent wedding card here we come!

Pirata13

I agree with casrd & no gift or card & Goodwill/non-returnable gift.

PreppySailor

Ewww! So they were registered, and then decided the wedding was getting too expensive, so they cancelled their registry, and are now 'perferring' cash gifts.
Classy. Is your fi invited to the wedding?

missy68

I would write on the inside of the card, I PREFERRED to give you a card instead.

Labrnr

Buy her a toaster, a two slice one.

mica178

Nope, he's not invited.  But they work with each other directly, and she talks about the wedding constantly.  (My FI, on the other hand, prefers not to talk about our personal life at all at work -- the correct and professional thing to do.)  She is sort of his subordinate, and at least where I work, the supervisor-type people usually do buy gifts for their staff in similar situations, so I made that recommendation to him.  Until now.

I'm going to suggest that he get an office wedding card and have everyone sign it. 

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]LOL spelling for dummies that is hilarious!!! Who does that! That's so mean. Although I don't know what's worse. My cousin who lived with her FI for 9 years registering for cheap dishtowels, or this note. I think they're both pretty bad. 99 cent wedding card here we come!
Posted by smore154[/QUOTE]

Would you have preferred that they register for expensive china (or ask for cash)? Yes, they could have refrained from registering, but at least she didn't go crazy.

nhelene

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sigh-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b301b66c-c43d-4fec-bb6e-619b7afad6dePost:28765c6a-f216-4ec8-b3f7-41d5b58fdde0">Re: sigh</a>:
[QUOTE]LOL spelling for dummies that is hilarious!!! Who does that! That's so mean. Although I don't know what's worse. My cousin who lived with her FI for 9 years registering for cheap dishtowels, or this note. I think they're both pretty bad. 99 cent wedding card here we come!
Posted by smore154[/QUOTE]

What's so bad about registering for cheap dishtowels?  Was that the only thing on the registry?

mwhitson14

I registered for cheap dishtowels. Guess my marriage is doomed.

Labrnr

I don't see an issue with registering for cheap items.

I think this is actually a polite thing to do, so there are options for everybody, rich and poor.

superheroprincess

I've been with my FI for 8 years (9 when we get married) so I'm not supposed to register for inexpensive gifts because we've been living together for the bulk of our relationship?

What do you think we should register for then?  Or wait should we not get gifts at all? At wedding people give gifts... how long you've been together won't affect that, and not everyone can afford the fine bone china or crystal (or want that for that matter).

Getting a $.99 card for someone because they registered for cheap dishtowels is ridiculous!  Glad you're not invited to my friend.

SarahPLiz

I dont understand why anyone would want expensive dishtowels. My dishtowels get cruddy after a while and have to be turned into dishrags or thrown out, because I use them and wash them so often. Cheap is the way to go.

chuygrl77

If he's not invited, you're not required to get her anything.  If he's only been there a couple months then I def say no to any sort of gift or card.  If someone in the office knows her better and wants to initiate something then let them.  Your FI is sweet for thinking about it, but with her "perfered" gift request, she can blow it out her hole.